Hey there! October has arrived, and with it, the beautiful autumn weather that I’m absolutely loving. I’m still wearing shorts, much to the shock of everyone around me. But coming from Karachi, where weather like this is a rare treat, I’ll enjoy the cold as long as my body can handle it. Today, I want to share a key learning from my TEDx practice sessions that revolved around the power of feedback loops. But first…

Weekly Inventory Check

September is behind us, and whether you completed everything on your list or not, it’s time to assess. What did you achieve? What didn’t get done? And most importantly, why? Take the time to reflect honestly on your capabilities. Be kind to yourself, and ensure you’re not overloading October with leftover tasks. Make it easier for yourself to succeed by planning realistically.

The Power of Feedback

This past weekend, I had an incredible experience meeting the other TEDx speakers for our November event. We had the opportunity to practice our talks in front of each other, with coaches present, and most importantly, we received feedback. The structure was fascinating. We were empowered to ask for the kind of feedback we wanted, and everyone was entitled to share their thoughts.

But here’s the thing: not every piece of feedback applies. This realization was a breakthrough for me. I’ve always asked for feedback from everyone around me, relying on the “wisdom of the crowd” to make decisions. But this session made me understand that it’s not just about averaging everyone’s input. The context of the feedback matters.

Some feedback will be more valuable than others, depending on the giver’s understanding of the context. Are they aware of what you're aiming for? Do they see the full picture? This insight made me think deeper about the feedback I receive in all areas of life.

Additionally, being able to ask for specific types of feedback made the process feel more appropriate and productive. When you know what you want to improve, you’ll be able to filter out the less relevant opinions and focus on the insights that can actually help you grow.

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1. This article focuses on the importance of being open, curious, and reflective when receiving feedback, treating it as a growth opportunity rather than criticism.

2. Feedback loops drive continuous improvement, foster better communication, and enhance customer satisfaction by addressing specific needs and promoting engagement.

3. Positive feedback loops reinforce beneficial behaviors, creating cycles of success that promote personal and professional growth.

Reels of the Week

This short video highlights the alarming rise of populism and hate crimes across Europe, attributed to four main factors: political exploitation of the refugee crisis, the influence of social media in promoting fear, ingrained human biology, and the European Union's flawed approach to diversity and inclusion.

Thoughts to Leave You With

Next time you're looking to improve, get clear on what you want to work on. Be open to feedback, but remember to evaluate it based on context. Some of the most valuable insights might come from someone who sees the full picture, while other feedback may not apply as much. Knowing the difference is key.

The Hustle Dilemma: Rethinking Work Culture and Ethics

Hi guys,

July is almost over, and while some people around me are bummed about the lack of warmth, I'm quite enjoying the sub-20 degrees throughout June and July. Maybe August will bring us a delayed summer.

Today, I want to delve into creating boundaries and the influence of culture. But first…

Weekly Inventory Check

The 28th of July means that July has unofficially ended. If there’s anything you can do in the next three days, do it; the rest needs to be shifted to next month’s bucket. Reflect on your open items and why they remain incomplete. I've realized that we often want to do a lot of things, but in reality, we don't. We just believe we do. So, like a broken record, prioritize what's important and cut out the rest.

Boundaries and Balance

This week, I had a thought-provoking discussion with my friend Muddasir about boundaries. We reviewed an article that identified numerous types of boundaries—10, 15, even 20. This made me question how boundaries fit into our era of heightened individuality. While we’re encouraged to protect ourselves, this self-protection can sometimes hinder collaboration and empathy.

Historically, society has progressed through the agricultural, industrial, and technological revolutions, each emphasizing collaboration and mutual support. However, increasing income inequality has shifted many people’s focuses towards self-interest, rather than collective benefit. This shift presents a problem: if everyone is solely concerned with their own needs, relationships and societal functions can deteriorate.

Current discussions often suggest that we need boundaries for every aspect of our lives to ensure personal protection. While boundaries are important, they aren’t a cure-all. We shouldn’t focus solely on self-preservation; we should also strive to give more than we take and build supportive relationships.

In our age of technological overload and social media, boundaries should address systemic issues and our psychological biases. For example, limiting social media use can help counteract the negative effects of constant comparison. Additionally, setting boundaries with those who spread negativity or adhere to harmful beliefs is crucial for maintaining our mental well-being.

Ultimately, boundaries should help us navigate modern complexities without falling into self-centered isolation. We need to balance protecting our individuality with contributing to societal progress. The goal is to find a middle ground where we move forward together, ensuring that self-protection doesn’t come at the expense of collective well-being.

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1. Explore effective boundary-setting techniques for introverts and discover how to balance personal space with meaningful connections. Read more here.

2. Discover practical tips for establishing healthy boundaries and maintaining a balanced life. Read the full guide here.

3. Uncover strategies for achieving balance and setting effective boundaries to enhance your well-being. Read more here.

Reel of the Week

Check this out! This must have come across your mind that usually the concept of Individuality usually presides in the West culture, whereas on the Eastern side of the globe they are more inclined towards collectivism. The notion of individuality carries merit when it fosters self-reflection and personal growth. However, if this perspective becomes pervasive to the extent that personal interests consistently take precedence in every scenario, it can give rise to a society where mutual care and consideration wane. Such an environment may lead to a decline in societal empathy, where individuals prioritize their needs exclusively, potentially resulting in a community where the ethos of compassion diminishes. Therefore, while both collectivism and individualism have their virtues, when taken to extremes, they can instigate inherent issues that permeate a significant portion of society.

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Our episode on Do you know your boundaries well enough? is out now. Join us for an insightful discussion in the final week of July as we delve into the important topic of boundaries, featuring our special guest Mudassir. In this episode, we explore the intricate relationships between boundaries, individualism, and collectivism, and how these concepts intersect in various aspects of life beyond just family and relationships. While boundaries are often seen as essential, I have shared my perspective on when it might be necessary to dissolve them, especially in situations involving loved ones. This is a nuanced conversation, and we invite you to share your thoughts and feedback. Tune in and be part of the conversation!

Thoughts to Leave You With

As we navigate the concept of boundaries, remember that our strength lies in balancing individuality with collective progress. Prioritize meaningful connections, protect your mental well-being, and strive for a society where collaboration and empathy lead the way.

Thanks for joining me in this reflection. Until next time, make every moment count and every connection meaningful.

The Hustle Dilemma: Rethinking Work Culture and Ethics

Hi there,

We are closing in on the end of July, which means summer has officially started here in Europe. It’s going to be a very short summer because, for the last few weeks, it's been raining and the temperature has stayed under 20 degrees, so it didn't really feel like summer. Personally, I'm excited for a short summer because I don’t enjoy the sun as much as others. Maybe that’s because I spent most of my life under the scorching sun in Saudi Arabia and Pakistan.

Today, I want to talk about work ethics and work culture. But first, let's dive into our weekly inventory check.

Weekly Inventory Check

This is almost the last week of July, with about 10 days left. I want to ensure that you have a clear idea of what you really want to achieve this month and a clear prioritization of what you need to deliver. People often overcommit to many things and spread their focus thin. While some thrive in multitasking, most don’t, and even those who do are not working optimally. So, I encourage you to focus on one thing you want to accomplish first before moving on to the next.

The Hustle Dilemma

I've been pondering over the concept of hustle culture for a while now. I’ve written a couple of newsletters on it, and I’m still confused by it. What confuses me is how rewarding it feels even when you're not seeing tangible results.

Take my example: right now, I’m hustling and bustling, but I don’t have much to show for it yet. I haven’t made money off this endeavor. I’m building my presence and ideas, which will take time. On the side, I’m doing other things I enjoy that also don’t make money. When I tell people about all these projects, they don’t criticize the lack of immediate results. Instead, they celebrate the effort and hustle.

This week, I had a conversation with Stefan about quiet quitting. We discussed how it differs from working in the US and Europe. He mentioned something fascinating: he said our work culture still operates as if we’re in a state of war. Subconsciously, we act as if we must deliver more for our company or country to survive. This fight-or-flight response keeps us hustling, even when we don’t need to live that way anymore.

I need to learn more to understand why we do this and become more aware. It's something for you to think about as well. Why do we maintain this war-like work culture? Is it a leftover from the manufacturing world where hours worked mattered more than output? Now, it’s all about output, but some people still feel the need to stay busy without delivering meaningful results.

I’m curious about your thoughts on this. Why do you think we have the work culture we do? How do you navigate it? Send me your thoughts—I read every reply. This is part of our journey to becoming more aware of our actions and motivations as humans.

Want More?

Discover the pitfalls of hustle culture and find a balanced approach in 'The Hustle Lie: Confessions of a Reformed Workaholic.'

Explore the toxic side of hustle culture and how it can sabotage success in 'The Poisonous Antidote to Success: The Hustle Culture.'

Reimagine productivity and challenge the norms of hustle culture in 'Rethinking Productivity and the Hustle Culture.'

Reel of the Week

Check this out! It's a common misconception that people from colder climates are more uptight, punctual, and driven to achieve the best results, while those from warmer climates tend to be more laid back and less intense about work schedules. But is there any truth to these stereotypes, or are they just oversimplifications of complex cultural differences?

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Our episode on Are You Unknowingly Creating Quiet Quitters in Your Team? is out now. This Friday, I was joined by my good friend Stefan, whom I met during one of our philosophical group sessions. As members of the corporate world, Stefan and I are no strangers to the concept of 'quiet quitting.' This phenomenon has become increasingly prevalent and can no longer be ignored in any office environment. Many employees experience this dilemma silently, without discussing it openly. Before the COVID-19 pandemic, quiet quitting was relatively uncommon. However, the term gained traction in 2022, particularly amongst Gen Z, as the pandemic triggered 'The Great Resignation.' It's clear that quiet quitting emerged as a silent trend during this period of significant workplace change. Join us as we delve into this topic and explore its implications in today's corporate landscape.

Thoughts to Leave You With

As we navigate our work culture and ethics, consider this: Is our drive for constant hustle a remnant of outdated survival instincts, or is it a reflection of our true ambitions and values? Reflect on how this mindset impacts your work and well-being. Are you truly thriving, or merely surviving?

Hi there, and this is a special day for me. As you read this, I am in a park, preparing for my daughter's first birthday. We have ordered and rented everything to make this beautiful event happen in the middle of a gorgeous park in our neighboring city, Meerhoven. My parents are here with me, helping to meticulously design the setting for what will be one of the most memorable days of our lives.

Weekly Inventory Check

The 14th of July will be a day I remember forever because it's my daughter's birthday, and it's also significant for you all as it marks the halfway point of the month. This means it's time for our regular reflection—understanding how the month has gone, evaluating our progress, identifying areas for improvement, and refining our to-do lists. This continuous cycle of review and revision is essential for effective decision-making and productivity.

Practical Insights from Vasl

In this week's newsletter, I want to take a more practical approach. Usually, we explore a range of topics from ideas and theories to stories and musings. However, after receiving a lot of engagement and questions about my work life, I decided to share a sneak peek into my job search process and client gathering strategies.

Having worked in the data field for almost eight years as a contractor, I often find myself giving interviews and securing new projects. This week’s podcast is dedicated to providing insights into this process. I'll share my thought process, areas where I believe my expertise lies, and tips on improving your chances of getting a callback.

One key area I focus on is leveraging the power of storytelling to make a lasting impression on interviewers. I discuss how to position yourself effectively and captivate your audience. I hope you find this episode valuable and practical. Let me know your thoughts and if you'd like more content like this in the future.

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Explore why storytelling is crucial for job interviews and learn to make your responses more engaging and memorable. Read more on Medium!

Enhance your interview skills and make a lasting impression with these essential tips. Elevate your interview performance now!

Reel of the Week

Check this out! Across continents, the essence remains the same: the joy of human connection. Whether it's the laid-back charm of an Aussie chat or the soulful depth of an Asian tea session, every conversation is an opportunity to bridge cultures, share experiences, and celebrate the beauty of being human. So let's raise our cups and toast to the magic of conversation, wherever it may take us!

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Our episode on Job Interview Tips is out now. As a seasoned contractor, I've been part of numerous interviews and learned that the key to acing them goes beyond just having experience and degrees. It's all about how you start, how you end, and keep the conversation engaging. The power of storytelling, a skill I've honed as an Agile coach, is essential in making any interview impactful. By weaving stories into my responses, I keep interviewers interested and convey my points effectively. Tune in to discover how you can master the art of interviews and make a lasting impression. I'd love to hear your thoughts and experiences, so feel free to share them with me!

Thoughts to Leave You With

Reflect on your progress and refine your approach, whether it’s personal milestones or professional goals. Effective storytelling and positioning are crucial in job searching and client acquisition. Thank you for joining me, and I hope you find the insights from this week's podcast helpful. Keep striving for excellence!

Hi everyone, and happy election year! As we reflect on recent events like the US Fourth of July celebrations and the significant British elections that saw a shift after 14 years of conservative rule, I'm excited to delve into some intriguing discussions. But first, let's share a quick weekly update.

Weekly Inventory Check

This summer has been uniquely productive for me. With the sun shining and a refreshing coolness in the air, it's the perfect setting for achieving my goals and staying upbeat. Have you found a particular time or season that brings out your best self?

Perspectives on Democracy and Media Integrity

Recently, I had a thought-provoking conversation with a guest well-versed in US politics. We discussed the crucial issue of voter participation and democracy's health. One key takeaway resonated deeply: simply increasing voter turnout isn't enough if people lack access to accurate information. Misinformation breeds fear, which can sway even the most well-intentioned voters.

I used to believe that if everyone voted, we could prevent populist movements from gaining traction. However, the reality is more nuanced. Every media outlet has an agenda and bias, and we must be aware of and minimize these influences as much as possible. Ensuring free access to unbiased information is vital yet challenging. Whether from state media, free media, or social platforms, the challenge lies in discerning truth from bias.

Transparency and accountability are essential. I believe media should uphold these values—updating information transparently, admitting mistakes, and avoiding biases. This integrity builds trust and empowers informed decision-making in a democratic society.

Reflecting on our democratic principles, I propose adding a fourth pillar: independent media integrity. In addition to the judiciary, executive, and legislative branches, media literacy and integrity can safeguard against unchecked power and ensure a robust democracy.

For deeper insights into the media's role in democracy, check out our podcast episode with Russell. It's a thought-provoking discussion you won't want to miss.

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Explore nuanced perspectives on media and democracy in today's landscape in this insightful medium article.

Delve into an exploration of the role of media in shaping societal discourse and democracy in this thought-provoking article.

Examining the critical role of media in fostering a healthy democracy, as explored in Nine by Five Media's insightful medium article.

Reel of the Week

Check this out! In an era where media and technology are reaching unprecedented heights, it has become imperative for individuals to stay informed and remain up to date. By honing our discernment skills, we can navigate the vast array of information available to us, ensuring that we rely on reliable sources and contribute to a more informed and harmonious society.

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Our episode on Geared up for US Elections? is out now. As we enter the first week of July, many are gearing up to celebrate Independence Day. To mark this occasion, we have a special episode featuring Russ on my show. Together, we explore the complexities of American politics, the pervasive distrust citizens feel toward big politicians, and the broader implications of this skepticism.

In this must-watch episode, we delve into how distrust in leaders impacts voter behaviour not just in the United States, but globally. We discuss how citizens from various countries harbour doubts about their leaders and how this influences the overall weight of votes in elections worldwide. Join us for an insightful conversation that sheds light on the crucial issues of political trust and its effects on democracy.

Thoughts to Leave You With

As we navigate the complexities of democracy and media in today's world, remember the power of informed decision-making. Seek transparency and accountability in the information you consume. Together, let's advocate for a media landscape that prioritizes integrity and empowers us all to make thoughtful choices. Your engagement and critical thinking are key to shaping a brighter future for our societies. Let's continue striving for a democracy where access to unbiased information is a cornerstone of our collective progress.

Hi there,

It is a beautiful sunny morning, and I am feeling inspired to share some thoughts with you. Today, I want to delve into the art of acting on incomplete information, but before as we do every single time, let's take an inventory check.

Weekly Inventory Check

June will be officially finished today, and I want you to reflect on what you have accomplished this month. Consider what can be improved and what cannot. It's been more than a year since we started this exercise, and I hope it has been as valuable to you as it has been to me. For me, it's been an amazing journey, continually looking for ways to improve and reflecting on my progress.

Now, on to the topic of the day:

Embracing the Art of Acting on Incomplete Information

This week, William, my friend and I discussed this concept in depth. William believes that perfect information is impossible to obtain, and I wholeheartedly agree. While incomplete information is challenging to get, the real struggle lies in the desire for more and more data before deciding.

In my work with data, I often encounter this issue. Everyone wants absolute clarity before deciding, but sometimes, we will never have complete information. Data can be limited and even skewed, making it difficult to know if the information we have is accurate.

A prime example of acting on incomplete information is the government. We often criticize governments for not handling situations correctly, assuming it's easy to manage a large population. However, governments operate daily on incomplete information, constantly balancing trade-offs between waiting for more data and making timely decisions.

Organizations face similar challenges. Setting up a robust data infrastructure takes time, and the results are not immediate. Yet, organizations often want instant answers on how to improve. It's a delicate balance between waiting for more information and deciding with the data at hand.

I want to emphasize that you will never have complete information. The key is to act on the information you have, with a well-thought-out decision-making process. This doesn't mean making impulsive decisions but finding a balance between thorough research and timely action. At some point, you must make a decision.

Want More?

·  Explore strategies for navigating decision-making with incomplete information in startup environments: Acting with Incomplete Information in a Startup.

·  "Discover practical tips for effectively working with incomplete information: Working with Incomplete Information

·  Explore strategies for making decisions amidst uncertainty and incomplete evidence: Uncertainty: Making Decisions Without All the Evidence

Reel of the Week

Check this out! The 5 Second Rule is a concept introduced by motivational speaker and author Mel Robbins. It suggests that when you have an instinct to act on a goal or make a decision, you must physically move or take action within five seconds. The idea is that if you hesitate longer than five seconds, your brain may talk you out of it, leading to inaction. The rule is a simple and effective tool to overcome procrastination and self-doubt by encouraging immediate action.

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Our episode on Starting with something new with the limited knowledge, is it good or bad? is out now. Join us for a compelling podcast session this Friday as we dive into the complexities of decision-making when faced with incomplete information and wavering confidence. Whether you're on vacation or tackling your daily grind, this discussion with William and I is one you won't want to miss. We explore the critical question of whether it's better to act now or wait for more clarity. Share your thoughts in the comments and become part of the conversation on navigating uncertainty in life and work.

Thoughts to Leave You With

In the realm of decision-making, waiting for perfect information can often lead to missed opportunities. Instead, consider this: while complete clarity may be elusive, thoughtful action based on available information can propel you forward. Strive for a balance between thorough research and decisive action, ensuring that every step is grounded in careful consideration. Remember, progress often hinges not on having all the answers, but on courageously moving forward with the best information at hand.

Hi there! Greetings from Bordeaux, where our journey is winding down with Paris as our final stop. We're here celebrating my wife's friend's birthday, reconnecting with old friends, and enjoying the bliss of these moments that transcend distance. Today, I want to delve into positive psychology, particularly in the context of work, and discuss how some find themselves unhappy in their careers, and what we can do about it. But first, let's take stock with our weekly inventory check.

Weekly Inventory Check

 As we near the end of the month, it's time for reflection. What did we accomplish? What falls short? How can we improve next month? Let's delve deep to understand our motivations and set clear intentions for the future.

Embracing Balance

Throughout my career, I've viewed that working eight hours a day serves as a means to fully enjoy and make the most of the remaining sixteen hours. Mental health and well-being were distant concerns; work was work, and that was that. However, the pervasive hustle culture that I have also talked about a lot in my previous newsletters has begun to seep into our lives, creating unnecessary stress and impacting mental health.

I firmly believe that productivity and efficiency within designated work hours (typically eight hours) should suffice. The pressure to constantly exceed expectations and climb the corporate ladder often leads to burnout. There will always be work; it's an inevitable part of professional life. Recognizing this can empower us to prioritize our health and well-being without guilt.

From my experience as a consultant, I have observed that many people feel overwhelmed by the amount of work they have. It's important to recognize that work will always be present. Whether you open your laptop tomorrow or a week from now, there will always be a plethora of tasks waiting for you. The business remains unfinished and that’s how it’s supposed to be.

Ultimately, achieving peace of mind doesn't always mean chasing greater wealth or career advancement. It's about making conscious choices that align with our values and well-being. We have more control over our stress levels than we realize; it begins with awareness and making intentional decisions.

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1. Explore how one woman found balance, contentment, and fulfillment in work and life. Read more about her journey.

2. Delve into a thought-provoking perspective on work-life balance: Read more

3. Discover simple tips for achieving better work-life balance and finding your peace: Read more

Reel of the Week

Check this out! Success isn't one-size-fits-all. For some, it’s about productivity and career achievements. For others, it’s about personal well-being and happiness. And for many, it’s about spiritual fulfillment and living according to their faith. How do you define success in your life? Share your thoughts and celebrate your unique journey

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Our episode on The Science of Happiness is out now. You can watch it below. Positive Psychology and mindfulness help to build resilience in the face of challenges and foster positive relationships in life, Join myself and Indre in this repeated telecast where we not only discuss the science of happiness but also help in its integration into life with the help of simple exercises that can aid in enabling to live a more fuller life.

Thoughts to Leave You With

As we navigate the complexities of work and life, remember that each day presents choices. Recognize the value of your time and energy—prioritize what brings you joy and fulfillment. Whether it's dedicating quality time with loved ones, pursuing personal passions, or simply finding moments of peace, these decisions shape our well-being. Embrace the balance that allows you to thrive professionally and personally. Thank you for joining me on this journey of reflection, and may you find harmony in your pursuits.

Hi guys, I am writing this newsletter from Lyon, France, where the weather is so great. I'm here on a road trip with my family, celebrating my little daughter's upcoming first birthday.

Weekly Inventory Check

Half of June has passed, and as we always emphasize take stock, evaluate what's working, what isn't, and most importantly, why. Understanding the 'why' is crucial—it provides deeper insights into our actions. So, rather than focusing solely on 'what' needs to be done, prioritize understanding 'why' and how it aligns with your goals for this month.

Reflections on Fatherhood

Today, I want to talk about Father's Day, which is today, and my experience of it. It’s my first-ever Father's Day, and I have no idea how to deal with it. My wife has been nothing short of cute with her planning. I was blindfolded, and a lot of gifts were tried on me in terms of accessories for my hands, neck, and fingers. These were my wife's gifts for me, and she didn't want me to see them before Father's Day. Right now, as we speak, the gift is in the car in the back seat, and I’m not allowed to look at it. She said once we are together in the evening for dinner, she will give me the gift.

This whole journey was nothing short of amazing. Whenever someone asks me how I would describe fatherhood, I say it's amazing, annoying, frustrating, a blessing—it’s everything all at once. That's what parenting is in general. You have this little creature in your hands who is your everything, but at certain points, you just want to put yourself first. That delicate balance is what parenting is all about.

As a father, things change over time. We are not the sole breadwinner of the house anymore and that is not our identity. Now, it makes much more sense to be more involved than just providing a paycheck. I'm actively changing diapers, taking care of my daughter, making her sleep, feeding her, and playing with her. It’s not like I don't like what I'm doing—I think it's a lot of fun. It's amazing to spend so much time with my daughter, have my morning routines with her, and enjoy moments like doing yoga together or taking walks while she’s in a carry-on.

At the end of the day, a father desires what every parent does: for their child, who looks up to them, to embody their best qualities, improve upon them, and ultimately become a better person. On Father's Day, this is my wish for myself and for all fathers and parents. Parenthood means nurturing a new generation to be better versions of ourselves, contributing to a better world for everyone.

Enjoy your week, and happy Father's Day to all the dads out there!

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If you're interested in learning about the habits and tools that successful people use, check out these articles:

·  Check out this heartfelt piece on being a "girl dad" and the unique joys and challenges it brings: Fatherhood.

·  Explore the surprising history behind why we celebrate Father's Day: The Surprising History of Why We Celebrate Father's Day.

·  Reflect on the significance of Father's Day and its personal impact: Father's Day: A Reflection.

Reel of the Week

Check this out! It’s a father’s day special!

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Our episode on Is the pathway to success, the same for all? is out now. You can watch it below. This Friday, Mudassir and I were all set for an enlightening discussion on the multifaceted nature of success. In a world filled with entrepreneurs, life coaches, and self-improvement gurus, we are often bombarded with a one-size-fits-all success toolkit. But does this truly capture the full spectrum of what it means to be successful? Through magazine covers and media spotlights, successful individuals often appear as the happiest, most fulfilled versions of themselves. Yet, does this image reflect their entire reality? Are they thriving in every aspect of their lives, or is there more beneath the surface? We explored the unseen and unheard paradoxes associated with living a successful life that challenged conventional wisdom and offered a fresh perspective that might just change the way you think about success. Tune in for a mind-opening conversation that will reveal the complexities and nuances behind the pursuit of success and inspire you to redefine what true achievement means in your own life.

Thoughts to Leave You With

My first Father's Day has been an incredible experience filled with surprises, love, and a deeper understanding of what it means to be a dad. From my wife's thoughtful gestures to the everyday moments I share with my daughter, this journey of fatherhood is a blend of joy, challenges, and immense fulfillment. It’s about being present, involved, and cherishing the little things that make up our lives. I’m excited to continue this adventure, witnessing my daughter grow and learning alongside her. 

Hi there,

June is officially underway, and with it, the good weather has people out and about, sunglasses on. Even my routine is getting more structured as it’s easier to get up in the morning now. Today, I want to talk about shortcuts to success and the various projects I’m working on and why I’m trying them.

But first, let's do our weekly inventory check.

Weekly Inventory Check

May has ended, and you know what we do here at Vasl. We take an inventory, check what worked for the month, and review our goals. It's important to prioritize and anchor yourself with long-term plans. While long-term plans can feel boring, they provide direction. Without them, you might find yourself sidetracking, constantly improving short-term goals without ever reaching the big picture.

Now, on to the topic:

Shortcuts to Success

Right now, I'm juggling multiple projects: building an AI tool startup, organizing a streaming tournament with friends, maintaining a podcast, writing a weekly newsletter, and growing my digital presence. Plus, I have a full-time job and fatherhood responsibilities. Why am I sharing all this? Because I’m hoping one of these projects will hit and lead to success, which I can then leverage for more success.

When you see someone online who seems to have made it overnight, it can look like a shortcut. But I genuinely believe that shortcuts to success are mostly lies. While luck can play a role, and sometimes a shortcut does appear, it’s not something you can rely on.

Consider the example of entrepreneurs who thrived during COVID by selling masks. They seized an opportunity, but they also got lucky. This doesn’t diminish their hard work and entrepreneurial spirit, but it highlights that luck and opportunity often play a part in success.

However, chasing shortcuts for the sake of shortcuts is a flawed strategy. My friend and I have tried forex trading for almost a decade, hoping for quick success. Yet, we’ve learned that foundational work and perseverance are key. Chasing short-term success leads to failure if you’re not prepared to put in the work and build a solid foundation.

Control what you can: your effort, your output, and your commitment to improvement. Whether success comes quickly or gradually, focus on doing your best and letting the rest follow.

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1.Taking the long way, with perseverance and dedication, is the true shortcut to lasting success. Read more.

2.True success requires perseverance and hard work, without shortcuts. Read more.

3. Explore practical strategies for achieving success more efficiently. Read more.

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Check this out!

Rushed decisions may lead to short-term gains but may not be sustainable in the long run. Taking the time to thoroughly analyze and plan can result in more stable and favorable outcomes. It's essential to consider the potential ripple effects of our actions on our future, as hasty choices might lead to unforeseen challenges or missed opportunities down the road. Balancing the need for immediate results with the consideration of future consequences is key to making well-informed decisions that benefit us in the long term.

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Our episode on Conversations No one Wants to Have is out now. You can watch it below. This week, I dived into the intriguing topic of luck and its role in our lives. While it might seem that luck diminishes the importance of hard work, I emphasized that luck is just a small part of the equation for success. When viewed positively, luck complements the effort and determination we put into our endeavors. I also reflected on how our generation has evolved compared to our parents and grandparents. With advancements in technology, we've become more productive and efficient, yet it's worth noting that luck might have played a more favorable role for the newer generations in certain aspects.

Speaking of generations, with Father's Day fast approaching, we have a special segment dedicated to celebrating this meaningful occasion. Be sure not to miss out on this heartfelt tribute!

Thoughts to Leave You With

Remember, success is not about finding shortcuts. It’s about consistent effort, perseverance, and being prepared to seize opportunities when they arise. Focus on building strong foundations and staying dedicated to your goals. Control what you can and let success follow naturally.

Hi there,

This is Ahad, walking back from my first meeting with the friend I told you about. He just came back last week, and we've been meeting a lot since he's only here for a few days. It's been a lot of fun. I haven't had these late nights out in a long time since having a child, because your priorities change, of course. But when a friend of so many years visits for a few days, I thought it was a good time to take a break from fatherhood and have some friend time. And it was a lot of fun. I really, really enjoyed it. Now I'm walking back to my family, who I've missed because I haven't seen them all day, and I cannot wait to see them. But first, let's have our weekly inventory check.

Weekly Inventory Check

May is ending, and you know what we do here at Vasl every single time: we take an inventory, check what worked for the month of May, review our goals, and understand where things might be going wrong. Prioritize, prioritize, prioritize. I don't say this every time just to make you feel like it's something you can ignore. The best way to build accountability is to start writing things down. This has changed my life since I started writing down my daily plan and my biggest action item for the day. When you cross that item off your list, you get a big dopamine hit that makes you feel accomplished. It helps you tackle other things as well.

Now, onto today's topic: mental masturbation.

Mental Masturbation

Mental masturbation means talking about things you want to do and getting a dopamine hit without doing anything. It's a lot of talking and no action, and you can imagine why this is a problem. I think this problem stems from how our society is structured. If you've been following me for a long time, you know I don't look at issues individually but holistically. So, when I see mental masturbation, I see it as a product of our system, much like addiction or laziness.

We've created a system where we crave dopamine constantly. With social media, it's easy to get a dopamine hit from a new tweet, notification, or message. This makes us dopamine addicts, craving our hits at any cost. The point isn't that talking about your goals is bad. In fact, it's great for building accountability. We have a WhatsApp group where we share our monthly goals and give weekly updates, which helps us stay on track. The difference between that and mental masturbation is having people around you who will hold you accountable.

Our system often rewards big talk without follow-through. To counter this, surround yourself with people who will hold you accountable. Next time you have big plans, tell someone you trust who will check in on your progress. This feedback loop will help you realize when you're just talking without action.

Most people aren't aware of these actions because, like addicts, they just want dopamine to hit. Building accountability makes you aware of your behavior. Find one person in your network who wants the best for you and ask them to hold you accountable. The first few conversations will be difficult, but over time, you'll start understanding the importance of not letting them down. This externalizes the problem and helps you stick to your goals.

Want More?

For further reading on the topic of luck and opportunity, check out these articles:

·  Learn how to avoid the pitfalls of mental masturbation and turn your talk into action.

·  Understand the concept of mental masturbation and how it impacts your productivity and mindset.

·  Discover ways to stop mental masturbation and start taking real action towards your goals.

Reel of the Week

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Transform your aspirations into achievements by putting pen to paper. Writing down your goals is more than a mere act; it's the blueprint for success. The magic lies in the details. As your plans materialize on the page, they become a roadmap guiding you through a well-organized journey. Avoid the pitfalls of forgetfulness and pave the way for a seamless execution. From dream to reality, let the power of the written word turn your goals into an unstoppable force.

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Our episode on Tone talks louder than words is out now. You can watch it below. This week, we delved into the transformative power of voice tone in communication. Join us and discover how the right tone can enhance clarity, convey empathy, and create a positive atmosphere around the table. Learn why voice tone is crucial for effective communication and how it can make your message more impactful. Understand the disconnect between your inner thoughts and vocal expression, and get actionable tips on cultivating a calm, composed tone. Elevate your conversational skills and make your voice heard authentically.

Thoughts to Leave You With

It's completely fine to indulge in mental masturbation occasionally. The key is to structure it in a way that builds accountability and helps you reach your goals, rather than just serving as your next dopamine hit. By involving others and creating a feedback loop, you can turn big talk into real action.

Hi there! As May comes to a close, I'm thrilled to share that a very good friend of mine is visiting next week. I'm excited about the time we'll spend together and the adventures we'll have. Today, let's dive into an intriguing topic: the concept of luck. But first, a quick inventory check as we wrap up May.

Weekly Inventory Check

With May ending, it's the perfect time to tie up loose ends and reflect on your goals. Remember, prioritization is key. If you keep adding tasks without setting priorities, you'll end up overwhelmed. Focus on what's truly important and let go of the rest.

Crafting Your Own Luck

Luck: is it merely a mental construct? I recently encountered the idea that luck favors those who are extroverted, optimistic, and open to opportunities. The argument is that these traits lead to better outcomes, supported by research showing that people who adopt these behaviours often feel luckier and experience more success.

I resonate with this premise. Life indeed opens more doors for those who knock persistently. It's a bit like the law of large numbers: the more you try, the more likely you are to succeed.

A story from my wife's family illustrates this well. One individual, an entrepreneur, faced repeated failures and mounting debt. Then, the pandemic hit. For many, it was disastrous, but for him, it was an opportunity. His venture, selling masks, thrived, and he became highly successful. You could say he was lucky, but his relentless hustle played a crucial role.

This brings me to a nuanced view of luck. While luck can be a factor, it often intersects with persistent effort and resilience. Luck didn't just fall into his lap; it was the result of continuous effort and seizing the right opportunity at the right time.

I believe in controlling what you can and not worrying about what you can't, a perspective rooted in Stoicism. Focus on your ethics, drive, and integrity. Do your best, and if luck gives you an extra push, great. If not, keep going and let the law of large numbers play out.

Want More?

For more insights on the interplay between luck, effort, and success, check out these resources:

1. Learn how to scientifically create and seize opportunities with 'Crafting Your Own Luck' by Nick Richtsmeier on Medium.

2. Explore the concept that luck is a mental construct in Anand Damani's insightful blog post.

3. Delve into how luck influences every aspect of life in Jay Sebastian's thought-provoking article.

Reel of the Week

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A fixed mindset limits personal growth because it believes abilities and traits are fixed, leading to avoidance of challenges, giving up easily, seeing effort as fruitless, ignoring useful feedback, and feeling threatened by others' success. This mindset hinders learning and resilience, preventing individuals from embracing opportunities for development and improvement.

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Our episode on The fine line between Passion and Profit is out now. You can watch it below. This week, William and I were back with an exciting and thought-provoking discussion. This time, we dived into a topic that resonates with many of us: the delicate balance between enjoying our hobbies and turning them into a source of income. We all know that hobbies keep us engaged and happy, often providing a much-needed escape from our daily routines. The idea of capitalizing on these passions might seem brilliant at first— imagine doing what you love and getting paid for it! However, we realized that commodifying personal interests can come with its own set of challenges. Turning your hobby into a business means your once-relaxing pastime could become a source of stress and pressure, leaving you with little for personal enjoyment. Join us as we explore the nuanced reality of this topic, shedding light on an issue that is rarely discussed.

Thoughts to Leave You With

As we navigate our paths, let's focus on what we can control—our actions, our resilience, and our integrity. Luck may play a part, but it's our persistent efforts that truly pave the way to success. Embrace the journey, and let the chips fall where they may.

Thank you for joining me on this exploration. Until next time, keep pushing forward and creating your own luck!