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From Hugs to Happiness: The Importance of Physical Affection

When you show affection, you’re showing love. It's another way to say, “I love you.” But, far too often couples let it slip away.

They stop sitting close to each other on the couch or stop holding hands as they walk down the street. Today’s Deep Dive podcast, “From Hugs to Happiness: The Importance of Physical Affection,” focuses on fixing those behaviors and how to better express affection.

I had a husband call one time. He was about to dump his wife in spite of the fact that he had a couple of kids still at home. He just didn't love her anymore.

Here’s the three-step assignment I gave him:

1. Tonight at dinner, get up out of your chair and go to the refrigerator to get something - it doesn’t matter what.

2. As you pass by your wife, brush your finger across her back.

3. Walk away and go sit down.

The man called back! He couldn’t believe how much that small touch reignited his loving feelings and gave his marriage the spark it needed.

Physical touch is important to all types of relationships — platonic, sibling, or otherwise.

My caller, Cheryl, craved the comfort of a hug from her only living sibling, Carmen who thought Cheryl’s need was unnecessary and ridiculous. Despite her initial resistance, listen to the powerful breakthrough both sisters experienced in this episode.

Reignite the spark with examples of affection in this Deep Dive

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🤔 “What Do You Want to Try That You Haven’t Told Him About?”

I Married My Opposite They say opposites attract, but what does it take to keep them together? Listen Here

Proper Care and Feeding of Marriage Made The Difference

I’m moved by husband and wife, Bill and Lisa, writing in together to share their testimony of a happy marriage! What’s their secret to a successful 39 years together? Here’s what they divulged:

My husband and I have been married for 39 years. We have 4 grown, ugly children and 8 grandchildren who we adore.

My husband is my best friend, and I am his.

Aside from family or friend gatherings, it’s just the two of us together on vacations, walks, movies, out to dinner or just staying home on the couch watching TV. To some, this may sound boring, but I wouldn’t want it any other way. We kiss and say I love you every morning, give a hug and kiss, or a fun pat on the butt every evening.

We never bring work home regardless of the day we’ve had. Work stays at the desk or in the car, and the door is always opened with a smile. Every Thursday we plan a date night with one of us preparing a special 3-course meal for the other. We dim the lights, have some wine, and serve each other what we've prepared. That’s usually followed by a soak in the hot tub and a back rub with oil and sex (not always the latter, but that’s okay because the foreplay is amazing.) Tonight, it's my turn. I’ve prepared my menu and I'm looking forward to it.

The Proper Care and Feeding of Marriage has made a difference in our marriage and contributed to its longevity. We appreciate all you do. Thank you!

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Now, go do the right thing!

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Changing My Approach to Dating

Leslie admitted she didn’t choose wisely the first time around. What’s she doing differently now?

I am 64 years old and had to divorce last year after 36 years of marriage. My ex-husband was an alcoholic, and I made my own mistakes when dealing with his addiction. A few months ago, I started dating a man who had been in recovery for 40 years.

I wanted to show up differently in this relationship.

Thanks to all I have learned from you, Dr. Laura, I am working on being "cute and adorable" as you say. I’m not trying to change him. I’m showing him appreciation and affection. We’re having fun and loving our differences as men and women.

The other day he said he didn't quite understand it, but I made him feel like a man.

I just about fell over. He said he hadn't experienced this before. Wow, just wow. I thought "Dr. Laura would LOVE this!" He treats me with love, respect, and adoration and is protective without being suffocating. Admittedly, we are early on in this relationship, but I am taking things a day at a time and living in total appreciation for what we have so far and for all YOU have taught me. Thank you for all you do.

🤔 Does your man measure up?

Ladies, don’t ignore the signs of dating a weak guy. To help you choose wisely, here’s my list of character traits that help differentiate a limp dick from a real man.

🎧 Related Listening:

These two Deep Dive episodes, “Choose Wisely” and “Dr. Laura's Dating 101” are full of handy pointers and thought-provoking questions.

📹 “Why do I quickly lose interest when dating?”

Spouses Take Priority Over Siblings Why is Sherry going against her husband's wishes and allowing her sister to live in their home? Listen Here

Thought of the Day 

"Now, go do the right thing!"

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How My Children Thanked Me Years Later

There comes a day when parents may realize their children are taking care of them. Read how Linda’s children expressed their gratitude when the tables turned for their mother:

When my children were young, I was a stay-at-home mom. I was there before they went to school and when they came back home. I’ll be the first to admit that I was not a perfect mother, but I loved my children and always made it my goal to do what was best for them.

It never occurred to me that one day, they would grow up and "step up to the plate" to help me.

I ended up retiring a few months ago after having a pacemaker placed. Imagine my surprise and appreciation upon learning that my son and his wife proactively searched for a 55+ community and put my name on the list. When I retired, there was an apartment waiting for me.

But the best part of all this?

For the first time since they were little, I live close to both of my children’s families. They are the best support system I could ever ask for. I don’t even want to imagine what my life would currently be like had I not had MY children.

👩‍🍼 In Praise of Stay-at-Home Moms

If there is one group in America that dearly needs cheerleaders, it's stay-at-home moms. My New York Times bestseller provides you with a decades-worth of my advice, support, and inspiration to actively participate in the most important years of your child’s life.

🤔 Dealing with Dilemmas Involving Your Adult Children?

Check out these videos featuring callers’ dilemmas with their own older kids. Subscribe to my YouTube channel for more content like this!

My Daughter Is a Mooch After three years, Illona is no longer interested in letting her daughter and son-in-law live in her condo. Listen Here

💡 Thought of the Day 

"Now, go do the right thing!"

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Don't Let Embarrassment Lead to Bigger Mistakes

For some people, the only thing worse than getting dumped is admitting to friends and family that they picked a jerk to be in a relationship with.

They’re so terrified about being alone and admitting that they made a mistake that they just keep going back.

Women especially seem to have this problem, like 36-year-old Taryn who was humiliated by her boyfriend.

During our call, she told me, “He knew I was going to be there watching a friend’s band, and he showed up with another woman!”

So, why was this loser even an issue anymore? Why hadn’t Taryn dumped him as soon as she found out that he was playing games with her heart?

Part of it had to do with her young daughter who was attached to her mom’s boyfriend. How would it look to Taryn’s daughter, her friends and her family when they found out she had wasted two years on this guy? When we don’t want to admit our failures we think, “Maybe I can keep this together and no one will have to know that I didn’t pick well (again).”

The solution to moving forward after a breakup? Be honest with yourself and willing to suffer through temporary pain.

Taryn needed to admit that going back would be very foolish for herself and her child. Because you feel like a fool and are worried about being alone, doesn’t mean you should hang on. It's far better to accept your screw-ups and suffer for a while. Avoiding the truth and the sadness of a breakup just allows a problem to fester and grow bigger down the road.

📹 Transforming heart-break into healing:

🎧 To Date or Not To Date?

Don’t miss these classic Call of the Day episodes, filled with callers in need of help with their dating dilemmas:

1. Will I Ever Get Over This Breakup?

2. My Boyfriend Dumped Me Via Text!

How many of my 10 Stupid Things are you guilty of? Read my bestseller to learn how to recognize your self-sabotaging patterns and how to avoid falling back into those cycles.

My Favorite Types of Gems to Collect

Some listeners, like Rick, keep an arsenal of my sayings at the ready. I hope the following quotes he shared can also provide you insight and motivation to grow:

Congratulations on achieving 50 years in broadcasting! As a long-time listener of your program, I’ve enjoyed hearing your opinions and advice on all types of life’s challenges. I want to share my three favorite Dr. Laura gems of wisdom:

"Understand that you do not always have control.”

This has quelled my tendency to rescue others and helps preserve my sanity.

“Never ever compromise on your values nor tolerate it in others.”

I failed to adhere to the second part of this reminder, and I put myself through an unhappy relationship. I’ve grown to recognize I should’ve faced the facts of this person’s behaviors from the start and listened to my gut.

“Ask yourself: Am I happy living the way I am from now until dead?”

This valuable question gave me the strength to move on from that relationship and improve my life. I could be angry or hurt about the wrongs committed against me, but I choose to be grateful I can be the architect of my own happiness.

Ronald Reagan once addressed a group of Marines and said something like this: “Some people spend an entire lifetime wondering if they made a difference in the world. Marines don’t have that problem.” I would like to amend that to say, “Marines AND Dr. Laura don’t have that problem.”

📖 Getting Your Life Back on Track

Wallowing in self-pity? Complaining too much? Look no further than my book, Stop Whining, Start Living, to transform your “poor me” mindset.

Times Change Chris is sad that her sons are connecting more with their father and less with her as they become young men. Listen Here

💡 Thought of the Day 

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Navigating Grief — Finding Your Way After the Death of Your Spouse

When major catastrophes happen in your life, you suffer. And when you suffer, you tend to want to curl up and hide. I know the feeling, because that happened to me.

In today’s Deep Dive podcast, “Navigating Grief — Finding Your Way After the Death of Your Spouse,” I’m discussing the what now? question people face in the wake of such loss.

When my husband died in 2015, I was in a state of shock at first. Although I distracted myself with my radio program, it was a terrible time when I got off the air. So, I know what I’m talking about when listeners call me looking for support after the death of their spouse.

4 Actions to Take When You’ve Lost a Spouse:

1. Find a grief group. The people you’ll meet will understand what you’re feeling because they’re going through it too.

2. Lean on friends and family who stand by you. I feel a great sense of gratitude to this day toward the people who truly buoyed me up and simply listened to me.

3. Let yourself cry. The pain is visceral and terrifying. In this episode, you can hear several somatic exercises I recommended that my caller, Gigi, try when feeling strong emotions.

4. Be patient with yourself. No one wants to hear this, but it can take a few years after your loss to start feeling comfortable and happy in your new life. When I first spoke to Yul, he was a ball of emotions. Listen to this episode for his follow-up call about how his life had changed six months later.

Hear from listeners who share their own tips for dealing with loss

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☎️ You’re not alone:

Whether you’re in the beginning stages of grief or stuck on painful emotions years later, dial 1-800-DRLAURA (1-800-375-2872) or click here to find a time we can speak together on air.

💌 Finding Solace in Unexpected Places

My grieving listener, Layne, had a particularly visceral reaction to reading my children’s book, “Why Do You Love Me?“ Read her eye-opening takeaways from my book in Thursday’s Email of the Day.

5 Tips for Saying No

As a child, I bet you had no trouble saying no. But when you got older, “no” became a terrifying impossibility — even to say it out loud.

You don’t want to let anyone down, hurt their feelings, or make them mad at you. Despite how complicated anyone tries to make it, saying no is incredibly simple.

📹 Teaching You How to Be Assertive with Others:

My Son Doesn't Call Me Dad Todd's discomfort with his son's homosexuality is ruining their relationship. Listen Here

"Now, go DO the right thing!"

Navigating Grief — Finding Your Way After the Death of Your Spouse

When major catastrophes happen in your life, you suffer. And when you suffer, you tend to want to curl up and hide. I know the feeling, because that happened to me.

In today’s Deep Dive podcast, “Navigating Grief — Finding Your Way After the Death of Your Spouse,” I’m discussing the what now? question people face in the wake of such loss.

When my husband died in 2015, I was in a state of shock at first. Although I distracted myself with my radio program, it was a terrible time when I got off the air. So, I know what I’m talking about when listeners call me looking for support after the death of their spouse.

4 Actions to Take When You’ve Lost a Spouse:

1. Find a grief group. The people you’ll meet will understand what you’re feeling because they’re going through it too.

2. Lean on friends and family who stand by you. I feel a great sense of gratitude to this day toward the people who truly buoyed me up and simply listened to me.

3. Let yourself cry. The pain is visceral and terrifying. In this episode, you can hear several somatic exercises I recommended that my caller, Gigi, try when feeling strong emotions.

4. Be patient with yourself. No one wants to hear this, but it can take a few years after your loss to start feeling comfortable and happy in your new life. When I first spoke to Yul, he was a ball of emotions. Listen to this episode for his follow-up call about how his life had changed six months later.

Hear from listeners who share their own tips for dealing with loss

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🎧 Listen to the accompanying Call of the Day episode:

It's Easier to Feel Anger Than Grief Maureen's anger over her deceased husband's affair seems misplaced. Listen Here

☎️ You’re not alone:

Whether you’re in the beginning stages of grief or stuck on painful emotions years later, dial 1-800-DRLAURA (1-800-375-2872) or click here to find a time we can speak together on air.

🥀 Adapting to Life While Grieving

Charlotte called me concerned that she was still suffering two years after the death of her husband. Read my blog to learn what two things I told her to keep in mind during this time.

How Your Children's Book Impacted Me as an Adult

Where did you unexpectedly find solace while grieving? For Layne, who was grieving her baby, it was in the message she took away from my children’s book:

At 22 weeks pregnant, my husband and I received the news that our baby girl had Down Syndrome. In that moment, the news felt like a punch in the gut — all our dreams, plans, and ideas for the future would look very different. We wrestled with the anxiety and fear of what it meant for our baby and for our family.

A few weeks later, our then-2-year-old daughter asked me to read your book, “Why Do You Love Me” for the 122nd time.

As we read together, tears welled up in my eyes. This baby I was carrying didn’t have to act or exist in any certain way for us to love her. Her chromosomes didn’t determine how much we’d cherish her. She would be loved because she was ours — the one and only Jaya.

With her approaching arrival, we put together a sign language binder, connected with other parents, gathered resources. Our fears turned to excitement for what the future would hold for our sweet girl. Ten days before her due date, Jaya’s heart stopped beating and I delivered our stillborn baby girl.

I learned I didn’t need to add another “why” to our list of reasons she was adored.

We love her beyond measure because she is OUR baby girl. Thank you for your children’s book. It has made an unexpected and beautiful impact on me as a 35-year-old mommy.

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I Married One of the Good Ones

What do women gain when boys are raised to be real men? Susanne shared with me how her husband’s character traits contribute to the success of their marriage:

Today marks my 42nd wedding anniversary with my wonderful husband. I was 19 and he was 21 when we walked down the aisle. We were just kids, but he was already working full-time on his family farm.

I couldn't imagine another person to take care of me and my future children.

We had three kids, and I was a stay-at-home mom. My husband was home every evening after work. We all went to church every Sunday. We did not spend a lot of money on vacations or frivolous things. There were times I worried we simply weren’t giving our kids enough, but apparently, we gave them exactly what they needed! They are all grown with families of their own now, and they tell us what a good job we did raising them and that they hope to do the same with their children.

My husband is a real man — wonderful, caring and thoughtful.

I’ve listened to your radio program for many years and have learned so much. That’s not to say we did not have our problems and challenges. But, being married and staying married was the ultimate goal, and you have helped us a lot!

🎧 Related Listening:

Don’t miss out on my two Deep Dive episodes, “Society Needs Strong Men” and “Choose Wisely,” that expand on the topics Susanne discussed in her email.

🖥️ Refresh Your Marriage This Year

Save yourself from becoming another statistic with my online course, Marriage 101: The Proper Care and Feeding of Husbands. Empower and equip yourself to improve your relationship with unlimited access to six video lessons and companion guides.

📹 Hear this Listener’s Poem to His Ex-Wife:

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Family Weekend Was a Flop There's a lesson for Angie to learn from the way her daughter acted during family weekend at her college. Listen Here

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Romance Doesn't Have to Be Expensive

Need another idea for your acts-of-love arsenal? Lisa shares the thoughtful experience her husband arranged for their anniversary, emphasizing the importance of intention over extravagance:

I’m going to share a simple free thing that my sweetheart husband did for me on our 34th wedding anniversary. We decided to visit our family for a couple of days. We didn't remind the family that it was our anniversary, nor did we make anything of it.

Unbeknownst to me, my husband had packed up our wedding china and towels and stuck them in the car. When it came time for dinner, he asked the family members making dinner if they would serve it on our plates as it was our anniversary. They were surprised to hear it was our anniversary. They all quieted down as I came into the room to sit down at the table. As I sat down, I was nearly in tears with how thoughtful and sweet this act was. It was an easy and inexpensive way for my man to win my heart all over again.

We are in Portugal on vacation now and listening to you on the web as we drive with our friends.

☎️ Need a romantic game plan of your own?

Let’s figure out what works for you and your spouse — and don’t hesitate to call in together! Dial 1-800-DRLAURA (1-800-375-2872) or click here to find a time we can speak together on air.

🎧 How does “treating kindly” pay off in your marriage?

Take a listen to these classic Call of the Day episodes and hear from callers who reported back about the improvements they saw after taking my marital advice:

1. My Wife, My Spouse, My WOMAN

2. It Paid to Take Your Advice!

3. Loving My Woman Has Paid Dividends!

💌 I’d love to hear from you!

What does your spouse do to melt your heart? Share your appreciation by sending an email to drlaura@drlaura.com!

I'm in the Middle of My Mom's Chaos How can Sarah extricate herself from her mother's marital drama? Listen Here

💡 Thought of the Day 

"Now, go do the right thing!"

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5 Tips for Saying No

As a child, I bet you had no trouble saying no. But when you got older, “no” became a terrifying impossibility — even to say it out loud.

You don’t want to let anyone down, hurt their feelings, or make them mad at you. Despite how complicated everyone wants to make it, saying no is incredibly simple.

Here’s how you do it:

1. Say it with a pleasant expression on your face. This accomplishes two things. First, it calms you down to not escalate and keeps them calm so they don’t get defensive.

2. Lightly touch the other person on the hand, arm, or shoulder. It signals that you care about them while communicating what you want.

3. Keep it short and simple. You don’t have to explain yourself. Just say, “I’m so sorry to disappoint you.” If they press you for more information, stick with that mantra: “I’m so sorry to disappoint you, but I really can’t.” Don’t give excuses or explanations.

4. Don’t say, “Perhaps some other time.” They’ll be back!

5. End it by wishing the other person well. Say, “I hope the party/job/trip goes well.” It’s gracious, and you make it clear that it’s over.

That’s it! The more you do it, the better you’ll get at it. 

If you don’t, everybody else will own your life and you won’t. If you want to be the master of your own life, you have to learn how to say no nicely, with no excuses and no explanations.

📹 Teaching You to Be Assertive with Others:

🎧 I Hate Letting People Down

In this classic Call of the Day episode, I gave Diana one question to ask herself when she starts feeling “guilty” for saying no to others.

How I Overcame the Trifecta of Negative Traits

What was your wake-up call to turn your life around? For Angie, it was a segment on my program, which gave her more insight into why she struggled with certain roadblocks:

During a show last year, you mentioned that “people pleasers” often had a childhood where they didn’t feel good enough. They derived their value from pleasing others. It felt like you were talking to ME in this segment. I realized I’ve lived my whole life with the trifecta of negative traits: people-pleasing, low self-esteem and perfectionism.

Frankly, I was sick of feeling this way.

With the help of my daughters, I've overcome some of the anxiety through art projects. It’s intoxicating to feel that sense of calm while being creative. Talk about a game-changer!

I also took your words to heart about improving self-esteem by impressing yourself.

I fixed our dryer by myself recently and felt an incredible sense of pride when it started working. For $16 in parts and 45 minutes of time, I have a working dryer AND, most importantly, a realization that I’m a pretty smart 59-year-old gal!

Thank you for being the best resource I’ve ever found.

You inspire me to delve into myself and make real changes. I am so grateful for all that you do for your Dr. Laura family.

💌 I’d love to hear from you:

Are you a reformed people pleaser? How did you finally find value in yourself, rather than seeking it from others? Send your stories to me by emailing drlaura@drlaura.com!

My Dad Doesn't Show Me Respect How should Jessica deal with her elderly father who expects her to work for free on his ranch? Listen Here

💡 Thought of the Day 

"Now, go do the right thing!"

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When Coming Out Tests Family Ties

Most parents have some vision or dream of how their children’s lives will turn out. However, kids find their own way in life. It’s understandable that the topic of coming out can be difficult for both children and parents alike.

In today’s Deep Dive podcast, “When Coming Out Tests Family Ties,” I’m discussing how to navigate new realities when your child comes out.

The sooner, the better.

Callers of all ages have asked me, “When should I come out to my parents?” The sooner a child can speak honestly about their sexuality with their parents, the quicker the family can move forward with a more honest and loving relationship.

While speaking with 52-year-old Pat, she asked me if it was finally time to tell her elderly father that she was gay and in a loving relationship. My answer? Yes! Check out this episode for the plan we outlined.

Listen and proceed with love.

When your child confides in you that he or she is gay, the only thing you need to do is listen. You don’t need to ask questions. You don’t need to give advice. You certainly shouldn’t be offering any warnings.

Gay children just want to know that their parents still love them. If you were proud of them before, you can continue to be proud.

Not everything has changed. Discover how to be the parent your child needs

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📚 Reconciling with a lack of early parental love

If you've felt an absence of love and acceptance in childhood, I invite you to read Bad Childhood, Good Life. In this New York Times Bestseller, I will show you how to pull yourself out of victimhood and thrive with the mindset that you have the power to create the life you want, despite your upbringing. 

🤔 The Question That Changed Our Family's Life

“Between now and dead, is this the life you want to live?” Read why the answer to this question was simple for Jacob and his wife in last Wednesday’s Email of the Day.

📖 Words Matter

Why do I urge caution with the verbiage you use? Last Monday’s blog discerns how misused powerful words and pop-psych rhetoric prevent you from rationally dealing with a dilemma.

Cancer is Ruining My Marriage Emily has survived cervical cancer, but can her marriage survive cancer's effect on her sex drive? Listen Here

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"Now, go DO the right thing!"

When Coming Out Tests Family Ties

Most parents have some vision or dream of how their children’s lives will turn out. However, kids find their own way in life. It’s understandable that the topic of coming out can be difficult for both children and parents alike.

In today’s Deep Dive podcast, “When Coming Out Tests Family Ties,” I’m discussing how to navigate new realities when your child comes out.

The sooner, the better.

Callers of all ages have asked me, “When should I come out to my parents?” The sooner a child can speak honestly about their sexuality with their parents, the quicker the family can move forward with a more honest and loving relationship.

While speaking with 52-year-old Pat, she asked me if it was finally time to tell her elderly father that she was gay and in a loving relationship. My answer? Yes! Check out this episode for the plan we outlined.

Listen and proceed with love.

When your child confides in you that he or she is gay, the only thing you need to do is listen. You don’t need to ask questions. You don’t need to give advice. You certainly shouldn’t be offering any warnings.

Gay children just want to know that their parents still love them. If you were proud of them before, you can continue to be proud.

During our conversation, caller Michelle admitted she was shocked by her daughter coming out. I asked her the same question that I ask all parents in this situation: “Do you want to preserve your relationship?” Listen to this episode for her answer.

Not everything has changed. Discover how to be the parent your child needs

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📚 Reconciling with a lack of early parental love

If you've felt an absence of love and acceptance in childhood, I invite you to read Bad Childhood, Good Life. In this New York Times Bestseller, I will show you how to pull yourself out of victimhood and thrive with the mindset that you have the power to create the life you want, despite your upbringing. 

🎧 Hear from the children themselves

Seeking more direction with coming out conversations? These 3 Calls of the Day episodes are a great place to start:

1. My Dad Doesn't Know I'm Gay

2. Coming Out Healed My Relationship with My Dad

3. I Want My Mom Out of My Head

I Am My Kids’ Dad

When it comes to divorce, I strongly believe that neither mom nor dad should date until the kids are grown. Read the main reason why my listener, Dan, chose to stay single while raising his sons:

I'm in my late 50s and have been divorced for quite a while. I have a great relationship with my ex-wife. We have two boys together, now 16 and 19 years old. I was a competitive cyclist. While traveling across the desert I discovered your show. Listening to the callers and your responses got me hooked. When I took my kids to the beach, they would listen too. My ex and I would also listen, though that did not change our outcome.

Some of your responses to callers left your voice in my head whenever I found myself in similar scenarios.

I have remained single to be my kids’ dad! This included lots of time spent doing fun stuff with them. It also means being there to help when they have had problems. I get that after a divorce, dudes want to get back into another relationship. But, the reality is that a single parent needs to focus on the kids 100%. Another relationship takes time away from that.

I am glad that I found your show and that I took the time to listen and learn. I have more tools in my toolbox now to help my boys become good humans.

📚 From one divorced dad to another…

Hear from some of the men who have called in for my advice:

1. I Forgot How Much My Son Needs Me After My Divorce

2. I'm Losing Control Over My Son

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The Question That Changed Our Family's Life

“Between now and dead, is this the life you want to live?” For Jacob and his wife, the answer was simple. He wrote:

Nine years ago, my wife and I made the decision to fulfill our missionary work. As a religious family, the opportunity felt promising even though we were the parents of a one-year-old and had another baby on the way.

Soon enough, problems started popping up.

My wife always wanted to be a full-time mom, but we couldn’t live off my salary alone. She was devastated to have to go back to work six weeks after our daughter was born.

We found your program, and it CHANGED our lives. 

My wife told me, “This is our last year here.” The next time the topic of missionary work came up, she declared, “Between now and dead, this is not how I want to live my life.” It became our slogan for that year. I loved my job, but I loved my wife and family more. I quit soon after.

I just wanted to share this with you and your listeners to let them know that you’re never stuck.

You can always change course and do what's best for you and your family. It all started with us asking ourselves, "Between now and dead, is this where we want to be?" For us, the answer was a resounding NO. Thank you, Dr. Laura, for being the voice of wisdom.

🤔 Answer this question for yourself:

Leave your complaining behind in 2024! Transform your mindset from indulging in self-pity to taking action in your life with my book, “Stop Whining, Start Living.”

🎧 Are you looking to better yourself?

These 2 Deep Dive episodes are a great place to start on your path toward personal growth:

1. How to be Happier

2. Overcoming Your Negative Self-Image

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Helping a Friend Die Tara wants to know the right way to act around her terminally ill friend. Listen Here

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Pleasing Good Men

What do I mean when I tell spouses to “Treat Kindly?” Carma and her late husband are the definition of a couple that went above and beyond to show appreciation for one another. She explains here:

I needed to tell you how right you are about pleasing good men. I'm writing you on the one-month anniversary of my wonderful husband's death. He was my best friend, and the grief is incredibly difficult.

My husband was so easy to keep happy!

He wanted my physical touch, my love, or something to eat. In turn, he wanted to keep me happy too and would do just about anything for me on a daily basis.

I used to listen to you on AM radio and missed you when you went to Sirius. However, I later discovered your Family Premium Podcast. One day, I asked my husband if he thought he could program my iPod to save your program. He did just that!

For 10 years he happily and willingly filled my iPod with your shows.

So, now you are tied to our continued daily interaction. That iPod is a daily hug from my husband. We were married 28 years and it wasn't long enough, but I cherish the wonderful memories. I am so thankful that I was lucky to be his wife.

🎧 Need some inspiration?

Hear from women experiencing the same predicament in these 3 Call of the Day episodes:

1. A Sexy Photo Goes a Long Way

2. My Husband Deserves Better Than I Give

3. Your Guidance Helped My Marriage

🤔 What Can Husbands Do?

Don’t worry, ladies — I haven’t forgotten about you! My listener, Mike, wrote me an email with his own special trick for pleasing his wife and why it matters to their marriage.

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It’s so good to be back taking your calls! Whether you’ve got a post-holiday dilemma or anticipate a fork in the road, dial 1-800-DRLAURA (1-800-375-2872) or click here to find a time we can speak together on air. Get advice!

Ask Not What He Can Do For You Jean's first husband was a disappointment and she'd like to figure out how to make better choices in her future relationships. Listen Here

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I’m Back On Air Answering Your Calls!

Welcome to the start of 2025! I’m back in my studio today with my tea, my gavel, and Lily-bug! There’s no time like the present to deal with what’s on your mind or weighing you down. Dial 1-800-DRLAURA (1-800-375-2872) or click here to find a time we can speak together on air. Get clarity!

Words Matter

Be careful of the words you use. They tell your psyche how to respond.

In today’s age of clickbait and attention-grabbing social media headlines, it’s easy to default to the dramatic. But telling yourself, “I’m traumatized,” requires a very different approach than saying, “I’m sad,” “I’m disappointed” or “I’m concerned.”

When we use powerful words like “traumatized,” “hate,” “destroyed” and “abused” inaccurately, we make actual trauma, hate, abuse, and destruction powerless. Not to mention, when you exaggerate, you make it less likely that you can make any forward progress. It’s much harder to come back from, “I’m devastated!” than from “I am seriously pissed off.”

The more dramatic you act, the harder it will be to have any rational thoughts about what to do next.

That’s why I ask people all the time to define their words and be more specific. Sometimes they’ll say, “I’m totally devastated,” when they really mean, “I’m so embarrassed that I (picked that loser, didn’t see the red flags, etc.).” Devastation is kind of permanent. Being sad, regretful or hurt can be more easily overcome.

The more you exaggerate, the less likely you’ll be to take any responsibility.

The less you’ll look at your problems objectively, and the less likely it will be that you’ll learn from your mistakes and avoid them in the future. Words matter. Choose yours carefully.

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Struggling with a broken moral compass? Take the first step with this Deep Dive episode by learning how to admit to your wrongdoings and mistakes.

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My Son's Words Make Everything Worth It

What would you say in a thank you message to your stay-at-home mom? Patty shared her son’s note with me, and I hope it gives you some inspiration:

I wanted to share how profoundly impactful it is to be a stay-at-home mom. Being by my son’s side in those early years solidified a strong bond between us. At 21, he received a diagnosis of a rare liver disease which has caused him to be sick frequently.

I received this note last Mother’s Day, and it still makes me tear up every time I read it:

"Mom, I was rather ill in the lead-up to this Mother's Day, but it helped me to fully appreciate what you've done for me in the past seven years. All of the care and concern you've given me is already more that I can ever repay. Let alone all of the appointments you've accompanied me on, all of the paperwork you've done, or all the medication you've filled. I know that you've endured more than your fair share of stress in this journey. You are such an exceptional mother and woman to have helped me the way you have. You're even more than that though. I know in my heart of hearts that you'll be there for me until your last breath (or mine). Just know this, no matter what happens to you as you continue to gracefully age, I will never abandon you, and I'll always seek to try to help you as you've profoundly helped me. I will never stop loving you. I'll love you forever."

I’m already tearing up again!

Dr. Laura, I'm so happy I made the decision to stay home and care for my boy.

💌 Share your own words of gratitude:

Who has made the most profound impact on you, and how? Send your thoughts to me by emailing drlaura@drlaura.com!

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I'm Not Honoring My Dad's Deathwish Terri wonders if she made the right decision to conceal from her mom the letter her dad wanted her to read after his death. Listen Here

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(Divorced) Home For the Holidays

In the months leading up to the holidays, I start getting calls from listeners looking for ways to deal with impending family dramas. What should be a joyous time of reunion can feel like a burden — especially with divorces and remarriages.

People often let their emotions about familial situations take over, instead of using logic to lay out how they handle stressful holiday gatherings. In today’s Deep Dive podcast, “(Divorced) Home For the Holidays,” I’m discussing where your priorities should lie — as a parent or step-parent — during this season. Keep these points handy to alleviate holiday stress when divorces are involved:

1. Have the courage to stay home from anywhere that makes you unhappy

2. Stop catering to the chaos created by extended family

3. Give up your tug-of-war with family members

The most important consideration for divorced parents?

The children.

The more effort you and your ex can put into making the holidays enjoyable — instead of tense, awkward, or bitter — the better off your kids will be. Listen to this episode for the pep talk I gave my caller, Jim, who was going to be spending the holidays with his cheating ex-wife and her family

Let me help you avoid making this holiday season more difficult

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🎄 Don’t miss this week’s blog post!

It’s the season of family gatherings, and the advice I gave in 2000 in my Perspective magazine continues to be relevant 24 years later! In this week’s blog, “Stupid Things People Do to Mess Up Their Holidays,” I lay out my list of no-no’s for this “holly, jolly” season.

💌 “My Mom Waited Because of You”

Holidays shouldn’t be the only time of year when divorced parents prioritize their kids’ well-being. Read Lezly’s perspective on being raised by a mom who chose to be single for her children in this Email of the Day.

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How to Get Your Dose of Dr. Laura through the Holidays

2024 has been filled with laughter, whoo-hoos, banging gavels, celebrations and memories to last a lifetime. While I’m on holiday break, I’m not slowing down!

Here’s how you can keep up with me until I return on Jan. 6th, 2025:

• I post multiple videos a week on my YouTube channel, where you can watch break-through discussions with callers and my Wednesday Wisdom series.

• Catch the best conversations from my on-air program on my Call of the Day podcast, top-rated in the Kids & Family + Parenting categories on Apple Podcasts!

• I release weekly episodes on my Deep Dive podcast, where I expand on topics commonly discussed on my program and in my books.

• I’ve got special programming scheduled daily on SiriusXM Triumph111 while I’m gone! Tune into the Deep Dive takeover on the week of Dec. 16th, followed by a Thanksgiving Marathon 2024 encore and “Best-ofs” for the last two weeks of the year. Don’t have SiriusXM? No problem! Click here to get 3 months free!

Start Off Your Year on the Right Foot

Let’s resolve any lingering dilemmas. Set up a time that works for you when I return on-air on Jan. 6th, and my screeners will call you back. Schedule our talk!

"Now, go DO the right thing!"

How to Get Your Dose of Dr. Laura through the Holidays

2024 has been filled with laughter, whoo-hoos, banging gavels, celebrations and memories to last a lifetime. Thanks to you, I commemorated 50 years on-air with a spectacular live-stage performance! I’m not slowing down anytime soon, though. The peeps and I have so much planned for the upcoming year. Until then, I wish you joy and cheer this holiday season and New Year’s with loved ones!

Although I won’t be on air, here’s how you can keep up with me this holiday break:

• I post multiple videos a week on my YouTube channel, where you can watch break-through discussions with callers and my Wednesday Wisdom series.

• Catch the best conversations from my on-air program on my Call of the Day podcast, top-rated in the Kids & Family + Parenting categories on Apple Podcasts!

• I release weekly episodes on my Deep Dive podcast, where I expand on topics commonly discussed on my program and in my books.

• I’ve got special programming scheduled daily on SiriusXM Triumph111 while I’m gone! Tune into the Deep Dive takeover on the week of Dec. 16th, followed by a Thanksgiving Marathon 2024 encore and “Best-ofs” for the last two weeks of the year. Don’t have SiriusXM? No problem! Click here to get 3 months free!

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"Happy Holidays & New Year! Now, go do the right thing!"

Last Call for Advice in 2024!

I’m ho-ho-hoping you’re having a great start to the holiday season! But if you’re in need of a pick-me-up or seeking clarity, today is the last day of the year to call me. Dial 1-800-DRLAURA (1-800-375-2872) or schedule an on-air conversation with me today: Let’s talk!

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(Divorced) Home For the Holidays

In the months leading up to the holidays, I start getting calls from listeners looking for ways to deal with impending family dramas. What should be a joyous time of reunion can feel like a burden — especially with divorces and remarriages.

People often let their emotions about familial situations take over, instead of using logic to lay out how they handle stressful holiday gatherings. In today’s Deep Dive podcast, “(Divorced) Home For the Holidays,” I’m discussing where your priorities should lie — as a parent or step-parent — during this season. Keep these points handy to alleviate holiday stress when divorces are involved:

1. Have the courage to stay home from anywhere that makes you unhappy

2. Stop catering to the chaos created by extended family

3. Give up your tug-of-war with family members

The most important consideration for divorced parents?

The children.

The more effort you and your ex can put into making the holidays enjoyable — instead of tense, awkward, or bitter — the better off your kids will be. Listen to this episode for the pep talk I gave my caller, Jim, who was going to be spending the holidays with his cheating ex-wife and her family

Let me help you avoid making this holiday season more difficult

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📚 Don’t miss out on related topics

These Deep Dive episodes explore more of my advice about holiday drama and parenting while divorced:

1. Avoiding Shattered Holidays

2. The Dos and Don'ts of Divorce For Parents

Listen to the Call of the Day episode that inspired today’s Deep Dive:

This Doesn't Feel Right Tim gets upset that his siblings invite both their parents to family gatherings when it was their dad left who their mom. Listen Here

My Mom Waited Because of You

Holidays shouldn’t be the only time of year when divorced parents prioritize their kids’ well-being. Read Lezly’s perspective on being raised with a mom who chose to be single for her children:

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My mom left my abusive, alcoholic father when I was in second grade and my twin brothers were four years old. She was a faithful Dr. Laura listener and never dated anyone while we were children.

After we all grew up and moved out, I sensed mom needed a companion.

I joked that she might meet a man if she went on a dating website, and boy did she. The man she met became like a real dad to me, and they have been married for 25 years now.

From the bottom of my heart, I thank you.

You influenced our mom to make us her priority until we were grown.

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Turning Luck Into a Successful Marriage

When it comes to marriage, love is not always enough. Maryann learned it's effort that makes the difference between being married and being in a loving marriage:

I’m 30 years old, happily married and pregnant with my first child. Looking back, I made a lot of choices that could have led to disaster: I met my husband when I was 20, and just a few months later we moved across the country and shacked up together. We didn't talk about our expectations for kids or any other important matters before jumping head-first into a commitment.

Despite the wrong turns, I got lucky, and I’m with a man I know you would be proud of.

Since listening to you, I went from a career-focused sales executive making big money to wanting to stay home and raise a family. My husband agrees and has stepped up for a promotion and is focused on being the best provider he can be for us.

And because of you, I know how to treat him kindly.

I have a sticky note on my computer to remind me to ask myself “How can I make him happy to be married to me?” Sometimes that means making him a sandwich without him asking or flashing him at random times to make him smile.

Thank you for all that you do. It’s because of you that I know how to treat my husband so that our happy streak will continue for years to come.

💕 Be Sweet to Your Sweetie

You’ve chosen wisely — but are you treating kindly? This Deep Dive episode is packed with ideas you can use to go above and beyond for your spouse.

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Making My Intentions Known on the First Date

What information is TMI on a first date? Catherine didn’t think twice about honestly sharing her dreams, and here’s why you shouldn’t either:

I love that you remind women how much power we have in our relationships and marriages. I was always very honest with the men I dated. Why waste my time on a loser who didn't have the desire and maturity to support me and my future babies? This was a choice I made before ever meeting the man who would become their father.

On the first date with my now-husband, I told him about my plan to be a full-time mom.

We were 22 and 24 years old at the time, and he was definitely surprised. My husband was raised by his grandma while his mom and dad worked. He told me that it had never crossed his mind how his future kids would be raised.

I've been happily married for 18 years and a full-time mom for 15. My husband later told me that he was so relieved to never worry about our children's safety while he was working. It made his day a lot less stressful to know that his babies were being loved all day by their mommy.

Thank you for supporting and encouraging full-time moms.

You have no idea how much you've helped me to be a better wife and mother, and how much your influence and support has helped my kids as well.

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Another 5 Stupid Things People Do to Mess Up Their Holidays

In yesterday’s Daily Dose, we discussed some of the most common ways we undermine the true meaning of the holidays. Today, I’m sharing the rest of my advice from Perspective magazine that still applies 24 years later!

1. Dumb Drinking

   The holiday season is a very good time of year for liquor companies because they foster the notion that no holiday celebration is complete without alcohol. This year, resolve not to purchase liquor as a gift and resolve to limit your own drinking to one glass of wine or beer with dinner. You’ll feel better the next morning and you won’t have trouble remembering whether you had a good time the night before.

2. People Pettiness

   At holiday time, we don’t practice enough forgiveness or “forgetness.” At a time when we should be organizing happy family celebrations, many of us are stuck in “pettiness overdrive.” We decline invitations or leave people out because we remember that nine months ago, our cousin seated us in the back of the ballroom at her wedding reception, or our mother didn’t thank us for driving her to the doctor. Our overreactions to these minor annoyances cause us to deprive our kids of important time with extended family. This is the time of year to be the bigger person. See the big picture.

3. Silly Spending

   Whose idea was it to hold sales the day after Thanksgiving, anyway? Instead of relaxing with family and friends, we’re busy trying to save a few dollars. And the crowds! Do yourself a favor and spend the day after Thanksgiving as a family.

4. Hubby Hounding

   Ladies, you probably know that guys are just not wired for holiday activities the way we are. Lots of guys wait until far too late to get their shopping done and wind up grabbing something that would look better on your mother than it would look on you. Oh, and that weed trimmer he bought you last year? Chalk it up to his desire to make your home more beautiful. He works hard and he means well, so ladies, give your man a break this year.

5. Stupid Shopping

   Last, but not least, is one action we can take to avoid big-time spoiling of our holidays. This year, dear readers, don’t forget to save your receipts!

‘Tis the season for family dilemmas! Don’t wait until your tinsel gets in a twist — click here and pick a time to speak with me on air. Get advice!

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Stupid Things People Do to Mess Up Their Holidays

Thanksgiving is behind us and Christmas and Hanukkah are on the horizon. It’s the season of family gatherings, and the advice I gave in 2000 in my Perspective magazine continues to be relevant 24 years later!

1. Party-going

   The chances are you’ll have to attend at least one office party. You may be stuck seated next to the guy who won’t stop talking or find yourself in a big room surrounded by unfamiliar faces, but grin and bear it. It’s only a few hours once a year and it’s probably an obligation your spouse can’t afford to miss. So, make the best of it. Tag along with your spouse and contribute to the conversations. You’ll find that time really does fly when you’re joyfully doing something for someone else.

2. Budget Busting

   Going broke at holiday time seems to be an American tradition. The best solution is to first determine what you can afford. Second, make a shopping trip based on that amount. Third, stay within your budget. A good way to reduce your holiday overhead is to make gifts. Any grandparent would rather have a hand-drawn picture from a three-year-old grandson more than an expensive gift mom or dad bought in a store.

3. Running Ragged

   During the holidays, too many families overbook themselves. Between the holiday shopping frenzy, the office parties and parties given by friends and the shuttling to and from the homes of relatives, we run ourselves ragged trying to satisfy too many people. One family we know has a multi-year schedule, worked out in advance with other relatives. Everyone agreed that it made no sense to try and see everyone everywhere. So each year, the host for Thanksgiving and Christmas rotates.

4. Extra Eating

   Let’s face it, we eat way too much during the holidays. And that wouldn’t be so bad, but we also eat the wrong things. At this time of year, we have Aunt Ethel who brings over her indescribable fudge, our coworker Bruce with his thigh-enhancing vegetable dip (which we must eat because he makes it only once a year) and cousin Rachel, whose latkes are so scrumptious, we simply have to have seconds. And thirds. Make this year that only the turkey is stuffed.

5. Missing Meanings

   At this time of year, it is important to remind ourselves of the real meaning of our celebrations. For any religious person, there is a renewal of our faith that often gets lost in the gift-giving. This year, vow to concentrate on the big picture. Concern yourself with holiday values, not holiday bargains.

Keep an eye out for tomorrow’s Daily Dose to read the next 5 holiday no-no’s on my list !

🎧 Avoiding Shattered Holidays

Hit ‘pause’ on the family drama and click ‘play’ on this Deep Dive episode for ways to gracefully avoid the kind of tensions that crop up when the holidays approach.

Take this as a sign to get some clarity before I go on my holiday break! It’s your last week to resolve any on-going problems. Dial 1-800-DRLAURA (1-800-375-2872) or click here to find a time we can speak together on air. Get clarity!

I Need to Be Healthy for My Family

This letter from Heather describes how she stopped making mistakes #3 & #4 on my above list, “Stupid Things People Do to Mess Up Their Holidays.” Read how she stopped ignoring her health after this ‘a-ha’ moment and dedicated her willpower to a better quality of life:

I was listening to you talk about how motivation is an issue of character, not weakness or victimhood. It was such an a-ha moment for me.

I have been married to my husband for 10 years and I have put on a decent amount of weight since our wedding day.

My husband has never wavered in the amount of love he shows me, but I often feel guilty that I've let myself go. He deserves me at my best. I've started my weight loss journey to get back to being the woman I was when we got married, and I'm currently down 47 pounds.

Hearing what you had to say about willpower has opened my eyes.

It's about character and doing what I need to do for my husband and daughter! I need to be healthy and ensure to the best of my ability that I'll be around for both of them for a long time. So, I'm going forward with a new perspective, and I thank you for that! Keep doing all that you do, you truly do make a difference!

💌 Are you making a change for the better?

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"Now, go do the right thing!"

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