Weekends are for Rookies

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The weekends are killing your game. It may seem like the perfect time to build upon your romantic prospects, but here’s what you have working against you:

1. Most guys only think that meeting a girl at a bar/nightclub on a Friday or Saturday night is his time to shine.

2. The place where you’re looking to meet women is likely loud and dark making it hard for her to focus on you.

3. She’s expecting you to hit on her.

4. And she’ll be under the influence for several hours.

Courtship isn’t just about shooting your shot, it’s about understanding the logistics of what works against you and what can work in your favor. 🧠

Not Doing What Every Other Guy Does Matters

You’ll never be able to fathom the number of times a woman gets hit on daily. Facebook, Instagram, Twitter, dating apps, text messages, and real life all start to pile up for an attractive woman.

How does a man stand out? He starts by carving out a routine for himself where he gets to meet women weekly while learning new skills, completing a physical activity, joining or cultivating a new community, or feeding an existing hobby or passion.

Here are some examples of what you can do to meet women in your area without forcing a connection:

• Co-ed Intramural sports: The league can be anything from volleyball to bowling

• Dance classes: Hotbeds for meeting women and a great way to learn a new skill

• Book clubs: Far more social than you might think

• Cooking classes: Similar to dance classes, and let’s face it, a great hobby to have

• Membership clubs: Will give you access to a variety of recurring events and people

Seek a Connection… Not a Number

Ever heard or read the line, “I didn’t feel a connection” from a woman? Ever been left on read after getting a girl’s number without a reply?

It’s likely that she doesn’t feel any sense of urgency to call or text you back because she doesn’t feel anything at all.

Blane Anderson, one of my favorite men’s dating coaches, described women meeting men at bars and nightclubs as trying to sort through different cans of tomato sauce in a grocery aisle. Sure, they have different labels, but your sense of choice gets distorted when presented with so many options in the same place.

Turning your week into a recurring opportunity to chase excellence, explore novelty, and meet new people while women are present will get you much farther ahead.

1. It creates serendipity which makes it more exciting for women to meet you.

2. It deprioritizes the women you’ll meet and still allows you to take action (No more putting pussy on the pedestal) 🐈

3. Accumulating these unique activities and hobbies, at the very least, makes you more interesting

4. And meeting someone while doing something distinctive will stick in your head and evoke more feeling

Sincerely,

Your Best Man