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Breaking Free from the Productivity Trap 🕰️

Ericka Ige — Tue, 09 May 2023 01:43:23 +0000

We’re a little tired today so this newsletter is going to be straight to the point.

Here's what we're getting into today ⬇️

Productivity isn’t attached to your self-worth. Get ready to unsubscribe from that thinking.
we’ve got a few good laughs for you today, check it out.
The 3 types of loneliness & tips to deal with them.

Self Love & Self Worth - Beyond the Productivity Trap! 🌸💪✨

It's time to break free from the chains of the productivity trap and reclaim your self-love and self-worth on our own terms. Buckle up, because we're about to expose the BS that's been fed to us by those so-called gurus who think success is measured by how many tasks we can cross off our to-do lists. Spoiler alert: it's time to toss their advice right out the window! 🚫

In this fast-paced, productivity-obsessed world, we've been made to believe that if we're not constantly grinding, hustling, and being hyper-productive, we're somehow failing at life. But guess what? That's a load of hogwash, and we're calling it out! 🗣️💥

You know what we believe in at Nice Girls Anonymous?

We believe in the power of balance, the beauty of rest, and the rejuvenation that comes from indulging in guilty pleasures (yes, Netflix, we're looking at you!). 🍿📺

Because here's the thing: self-love and self-worth aren't tied to our productivity levels or the number of items we check off our never-ending to-do lists. They're rooted in accepting ourselves exactly as we are, flaws, quirks, and all.

The truth is, our worth as individuals extends far beyond our ability to be productive or to measure our lives solely by financial success. We have to go beyond the cycle of constantly seeking validation through external achievements and recognize that our worth is irrespective of our productivity levels. You are worthy of love, self-respect, and confidence simply because you exist.

Now, we're not saying you should ditch all responsibilities and become a couch potato (unless that's what brings you genuine joy, of course!). It's about finding a healthy balance between being productive and giving yourself the permission to relax, recharge, and pursue activities that bring you happiness without judgment.

So, let's liberate ourselves from the hamster wheel of never feeling good enough. Embrace your downtime, celebrate your accomplishments (big or small), and honor your personal journey. You are more than the tasks you accomplish; you deserve to feel love, respect, and confidence unconditionally without having to subscribe to hustle culture! 🌟💖

So go ahead and binge-watch that guilty pleasure show, indulge in a spa day, or take that much-needed nap guilt-free! 💆‍♀️💤

We got a good laugh at this video over the weekend. If you’ve ever had something go wrong while doing your hair you’ll understand this.

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Want to know how to improve your self worth, read this article.
Are you giving too much to someone you’re not even dating? Listen to this podcast episode.

Are you feeling lonely? Here’s The 3 Types of Loneliness Plus How to Kick 'Em to the Curb

Loneliness, my friend, can come in all shapes and sizes. Just like that collection of mismatched socks lurking in your drawer. But fear not, because we're about to decode the Loneliness Lineup and give you the guide on how to show each type the door. Ready? Let's dive in!

First up, we have Intimate Loneliness. This sneaky little bugger creeps in when you feel like you're missing that special someone who has your back in the good times and the bad. You know, the confidante, the ride-or-die friend, or the partner who can handle all your crazy.

Want to know how to overcome it this summer? Reconnect with your close pals or significant other this summer.

Remember why you clicked in the first place -how did you meet? What drew you to them? remember those things if you’re feeling disconnected.
let the vulnerability flow like a river of deep conversations - this one is self-explanatory but don’t be afraid to be vulnerable to people
and shared adventures- revisit your favorite activities to do together.

Next on the list, we have Relational Loneliness. This loneliness lurks in the shadows, making you feel like you're missing out on a broader network of friends. Maybe you lost touch with your squad during the pandemic, and those virtual hangouts just weren't cutting it.

Well, it's time to take charge!

Make plans with your crew, but don't let that self-esteem monster sabotage your connection.
Assume your friends like you as much as you like them. Newsflash: Research says we're less likely to be rejected than we think.

Last but not least, we have Collective Loneliness. This loneliness takes a more community-centric approach. It's that feeling of being disconnected from the wider world, from your neighbors and those chance encounters that used to make life exciting. Thanks to the pandemic, virtual platforms struggled to recreate those spontaneous moments.

But don’t worry!

Take advantage of the moments when you can safely be around others.
Go for a walk, change up your scenery, and remember that you're part of a vibrant community. Sometimes, a simple stroll can work wonders for your collective connection vibes.

Now, here's the kicker: You have the power to control how you perceive and handle loneliness. You can identify those negative thoughts and view them as faulty hypotheses rather than cold, hard facts.

So when loneliness comes knocking, start to kick it to the curb by reframing how you think about your relationships.

Exciting Announcement

After we wrap up the Summer Series Challenge in June. We’ll be introducing a new challenge (that’s paid- low cost) called

The Kind Savagery 30-Day Confidence & Self-Love Challenge.

Every day you’ll receive either a video, audio, or task to do that will help you focus on embracing your inner kindness & fierceness. Plus you’ll have access to our Slack during the 30 days to get support during the 30 days.

Price the challenge at $97, with an early bird price of $77 for those who sign up before the launch date.

You can join now for early access to the community but the challenge will not kick off until July 10th

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Happy Cinco De Mayo Baddies.

Ericka Ige — Fri, 05 May 2023 16:00:00 +0000

Happy Cinco De Mayo Baddies.

This our annual reminder to everyone that this holiday is not Mexican Independence Day.

Also please be aware of any inappropriate cultural references today. If you think’s not cool it’s probably not.

Here’s an article with quick history on this holiday.

Grabs some chips & guac and get into this email today ⬇️

In today’s edition:

Tips for surviving social anxiety in any situation, especially Holiday festivities!
Getting back on track after a wild week of staying up too late (yes, we're looking at you, 3 am!)
Brain-boosting quotes to ponder over the weekend
Swooning over Bridgerton? We've got a juicy blog post to indulge in!
Need to unwind? We've got gaming suggestions that will transport you to another world. Let's get lost in the game!

Strategies For Managing Social Anxiety In Summer Settings

As a seasoned pros at managing social anxiety in summer settings, we’re here to share some tips with you. Trust me, we've been there: Cinco De Mayo celebrations, weddings, and outdoor festivals can all be super intimidating. But we’ve got your back with some strategies to make it through without breaking a sweat.

First things first, preparation is key. Take a few minutes to picture yourself slaying the event, and come up with a game plan for how you'll handle any awkward or anxiety-inducing situations. And if you're feeling really nervous, bring along a trusted friend for backup.

Don't forget to take breaks when you need 'em. A little fresh air or a quick walk can do wonders for calming your nerves. And if all else fails, whip out those relaxation techniques you learned in yoga class. Deep breaths, girl.

And finally, don’t forget to set realistic expectations. It's important to keep it real and not put too much pressure on yourself to be the life of the party. We all have those awkward moments, so don't sweat it if you have a little stumble here or there. Just laugh it off and keep on keepin' on.

Social anxiety can be tough to manage, but you're doing your best and that's all anyone can ask. Remember to enjoy yourself and focus on making great memories.

A question to ponder over the weekend

You might as well listen to Ice Spice while you’re here.

In Ha Mood

Ice Spice · Song · 2023

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Nice Girls Finish First, but are you tired of constantly scanning for potential threats? Check out our latest blog and overcome hypervigilance
Ready for scandal, romance, and a history lesson? Wondering about the real Queen Charlotte behind Bridgerton? Check out this blog for all the tea & make it English Breakfast.

Getting Back On Track After a Free For All Period

Hey there, my fellow night owls!

Listen up, because if you're struggling to get back into a routine after a period of free-for-all, I've got a story for you. I've been staying up until the wee hours of the morning for the past 2 months, and it's thrown my whole schedule out of whack. I'm talking about being up until 6 or 7 am, like a freaking vampire.

But here's the thing, babes. Being off your routine can really mess with your mood and leave you feeling sad. So, I'm doing a hard reset on my schedule next week, and I want you to join me!

Here's what my plan looks like, in case you want to follow along:

Improve my sleep hygiene. Yeah, it's currently terrible, but I'm going to work on setting a sleep schedule, unplugging from electronics, and getting some daily daylight exposure. Zzzs, here I come!
Create habit intentions. I'm taking a page out of James Clear's book, Atomic Habits, and using the After / Before / When I method to stack new habits onto existing ones. It's all about making small changes that add up to big results.
Plan for failure. Let's face it, we're all human, and we're all going to slip up sometimes. But instead of beating ourselves up about it, let's plan for it and move on.
Join a challenge. Personally, I'm all about Project 50, but find a challenge that works for you and get motivated to replace those bad habits with good ones.

So, let's do this, baddies! I'll report back in a few weeks to let you know how it's going. And remember, it's all about progress, not perfection.

For all the gamers out there, check out this video for suggestions to unwind this weekend.
Celebrate Cinco de Mayo with a margarita in hand! Enjoying a holiday with loved ones helps foster a sense of connection and reduces stress.
Slip into luxurious silk pajamas and take time for self-care. Treating yourself to a little luxury can boost self-esteem and improve mood. Check out these on our Amazon Store.
Unplug from technology and indulge in a good book or nature walk. Disconnecting from screens and taking in natural surroundings can promote relaxation and reduce anxiety. Check out this site to search the best nature walks near you.

WHAT WE’RE LISTENING TO THIS WEEKEND

Hard to Tell

Oddisee · Song · 2022

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Don’t forget to check out our podcast episode from this week

Boost Your Self-Confidence with My UnAesthetic Life Podcast | Real Stories and Expert Advice

Listen to this episode from My UnAesthetic Life on Spotify. Welcome back, Kind Baddies! We're so excited to be back with another episode of My UnAesthetic Life.

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Overcoming Body Image Issues

Ericka Ige — Wed, 03 May 2023 22:20:32 +0000

Summer is here, and you're worth all the self-love you're baking up! In this email from Nice Girls Anonymous, discover tips for boosting your body confidence, creating a balance of productivity and rest, and more. Here's what we're getting into today ⬇️

Boost Your Body Confidence This Summer
Tips for Creating a Productivity and Rest Balance
One Minute to Positive Thoughts About Your Body
My UnAesthetic Life Podcast Is Back!
Upcoming 30 Day Kind Savagery Challenge

Overcoming Body Image Issues

As the weather heats up and we start to break out our favorite summer outfits, it's not uncommon for many of us to start feeling a little self-conscious about our bodies. Whether it's a fear of being judged by others or simply not feeling comfortable in your own skin, body image issues can really take a toll on your confidence and self-esteem. We’re here with some tips for overcoming body image issues and staying confident this summer.

First and foremost, it's important to remember that nobody's perfect. We all have our own unique imperfections and flaws, and that's okay! Instead of focusing on what you don't like about your body, try to focus on the things that you do like. Maybe you've got killer legs or a great smile - whatever it is, celebrate those parts of yourself and own them!

Another tip is to follow positive social media accounts. This means following social media accounts that promote body positivity and self-love. Avoid toxic people or accounts that make you feel bad about yourself - ain't nobody got time for that negativity!

Exercise can also be a great way to boost your confidence and improve your body image. Not only does it release endorphins (those feel-good chemicals in your brain), but it can also help you feel stronger and more capable. Plus, exercising regularly can help you feel more comfortable in your own skin, which can make a huge difference when it comes to body image.

Finally, it's important to remember that beauty comes in all shapes and sizes. There is no "perfect" body type, despite what society may try to tell us. Embrace your own unique beauty and don't compare yourself to others. You are beautiful just the way you are!

Remember, you are worthy and deserving of love and respect, no matter what your body looks like. Now go out there and rock that cute summer outfit with confidence!

Remember you’re worth all the self love that you’re baking up 🧁

Remember Small Steps Are Better Than No Steps. Keep Going 🧁

Today’s question…….

“How can I create a balance of productivity and rest during the summer?”

Ah, the eternal struggle of balancing productivity and rest during the summer months. It can be so tempting to just lay in the sun all day or binge-watch Netflix, but we all know that too much of a good thing can quickly turn into a bad thing. Luckily, there are some things you can do to help you manage the delicate balance between productivity and rest.

Be realistic with your goals and priorities. If you know that you like taking it easier in the summer months, do not agree to do everything that everyone asks of you. It's important to check in with yourself and prioritize things based on importance. What do you want to accomplish this summer? Maybe you want to learn a new skill, read more books, or take more naps. Whatever it is, make a plan and break it down into actionable steps.

This will help you stay focused and motivated, while still allowing for plenty of rest and relaxation.

Speaking of rest and relaxation, don't forget to schedule in some downtime for yourself. This could mean taking a day off from work or school, indulging in a spa day, or simply spending an afternoon lounging in the park. Whatever you do, make sure you take advantage of the sun, the feeling of leisure in the summer, do something that brings you joy and helps you recharge your batteries.

Another tip is to find a productivity system that works for you. Maybe you're a morning person and prefer to knock out your to-do list first thing in the day, or maybe you're more of a night owl and get your best work done after dark. We love nights over here. Whatever your preferences, find a routine that allows you to be productive while also giving yourself plenty of time for rest and relaxation.

If you’re interested in doing time based methods to increase productivity, read up on the Pomodoro method.

And finally, don't forget to be kind to yourself. It's okay that routine isn’t perfect in the summer. With kids out of school, increased spontaneous social interactions and outings, it’s okay to take breaks and to not be productive 24/7.

Remember that summer is a time to enjoy yourself and have fun, so don't let the pressure to be productive get in the way of that. Find the balance that works for you, and remember that it's all about enjoying the journey, not just the destination.

Love,

One Minute to Positive Thoughts About Your Body.

Take a seat or lay down and relax for just one minute.

✅Take a deep breath and close your eyes.

✅ Place one hand on your heart and one hand on your belly.

✅ Repeat the following affirmations to yourself, either out loud or in your head:

My body is strong and capable.
I am grateful for all the amazing things my body can do.
I choose to focus on the things I love about my body.
My body is unique and beautiful in its own way.
I am deserving of love and respect, no matter what my body looks like.

✅Take another deep breath and slowly open your eyes.

And just like that, you've taken a minute to give yourself some positive affirmations about your body! Repeat this exercise whenever you need a quick boost of confidence and self-love.

Remember, you are amazing just the way you are!

My UnAesthetic Life Podcast Is Back!

Welcome back, Kind Baddies! We're so excited to be back with another episode of My UnAesthetic Life. In this episode, we're sharing our community values and what you can expect from upcoming content.

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Boost Your Self-Confidence with My UnAesthetic Life Podcast | Real Stories and Expert Advice by My UnAesthetic Life

Welcome back, Kind Baddies! We're so excited to be back with another episode of My UnAesthetic Life. In this episode, we're sharing our community values and what you can expect from upcoming content. First, we'll dive into our community values of kindness, honesty, empathy, and boldness. We believe that these values are crucial to creating a safe and supportive space where we can all be our authentic selves. We'll discuss why these values are important to us and how they shape the conversations we have on the podcast. Next, get ready for some celebrity and reality TV show gossip with a psychology twist! We'll share our thoughts on the latest drama and scandals in the entertainment world, but we'll also dive deeper and explore the psychological factors at play. From analyzing the behavior of your favorite reality stars to dissecting the psychological impact of fame, we'll give you a fresh perspective on the world of pop culture. But that's not all - we'll also discuss some of our favorite TV shows and movies with a psychology twist. We'll explore how popular media can reflect and shape our understanding of mental health, relationships, and more. Whether you're a fan of classic movies or binge-watching the latest Netflix series, you won't want to miss this segment. And finally, we'll give you a sneak peek at some of the upcoming episodes you can expect from us. We'll cover topics like body positivity, mental health in the workplace, and the impact of social media on our lives. Plus, we'll continue to bring on amazing guests who share their own personal experiences and insights. So mark your calendars for every Wednesday, because we're back and better than ever. Thanks for tuning in, Softie Squad! ***Our Newsletter*** Join our newsletter community, Nice Girls Anonymous a weekly newsletter that delivers the hottest, fun, easy-to-digest content that helps women live fulfilling lives by focusing on self love, self confidence, self mastery, & mental wellness. It's time to start putting your relationship with yourself first for once in your life, and we're here to help you do just that. So buckle up and get ready to ditch the self-sacrificing act, because it's time to start living life on your own terms. Subscribe here: https://nicegirlsanonymous-newsletter.beehiiv.com/ Check out our digital Resources: https://nicegirlsanonymous.com/ *** Anxious But Blessed Clothing*** Shop Our Inspiring Clothing: https://anxiousbutblessed.com/ Check Out Amazon Products That Support Your Mental Health Journey: https://bit.ly/3W07lje *** Subscribe to Our Channel*** http://bit.ly/3GX2Z86 ***Follow Me On Instagram*** https://www.instagram.com/nicegirlsanonymous/ ***Follow Me On Tik Tok*** https://www.tiktok.com/@erickaige *** PROFESSIONAL DISCLAIMER*** Anxious But Blessed does not provide medical advice, diagnosis, or treatment. Any information published on this website or by this brand is not intended as a replacement for medical advice. Always consult a qualified health or mental health professional with any questions or concerns about your mental health. THE USE OR RELIANCE OF ANY INFORMATION CONTAINED ON THE SITE IS SOLELY AT YOUR OWN RISK.

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Exciting Announcement

After we wrap up the Summer Series Challenge in June. We’ll be introducing a new challenge (that’s paid- low cost) called The Kind Savagery 30-Day Confidence & Self-Love Challenge.

Every day you’ll receive either a video , audio, or task to do that will help you focus on embracing your inner kindness & fierceness. Plus you’ll have access to our Slack during the 30 days to get support during the 30 days.

Price the challenge at $97, with an early bird price of $77 for those who sign up before the launch date.

You can join now for early access to the community but the challenge will not kick off until July 10th.

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WHAT WE’RE LISTENING TO

See You Again (feat. Kali Uchis)

Tyler, The Creator, Kali Uchis · Song · 2017

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Get Your Summer Chill On:

Ericka Ige — Tue, 02 May 2023 03:00:00 +0000

It’s the first day of the Shining Through Summer Series and we’re pumped!

Here's what we're getting into today ⬇️

First up, we're tackling the age-old problem of confusing your situation with who you are. It's time to separate the two and let your true self shine through.
Need to chill out this summer? We've got you covered with some breath work techniques that will have you feeling zen in no time.
Feeling a little bummed about your summer reality? Don't worry, we've got an article with tips on how to turn your summer from 'meh' to 'heck yeah!
Plus, we're giving you a sneak peek into a new podcast dropping this Wednesday, where we'll be breaking down all the juicy details about My UnAesthetic Life.
And if you're ready to level up your confidence and self-love, don't miss our new paid challenge: The Kind Savagery 30-Day Confidence & Self-Love Challenge.

Not confusing your situation with who you are

Have you ever found yourself confusing who you are with where you are? It's a common trap we all fall into from time to time. Maybe you're feeling down because you're stuck in a dead-end job or living in a city you don't love. But here's the thing: your location or circumstances do not define who you are. Your thoughts and beliefs about yourself are what truly matter.

That's where the power of positive thinking comes in. By shifting your mindset to one of positivity, you can transform your thoughts and beliefs about yourself, no matter where you’re at in your life.

When you believe in yourself and your abilities, you radiate confidence and create opportunities and space to attract positive experiences into your life.

One way to practice positive thinking is to focus on your strengths, Instead of dwelling on your shortcomings or failures, celebrate your successes and the things you're good at. You are so much more than your current job or living situation.

Another strategy is to remember that everything in life is temporary. It's easy to get caught up in the belief that our current circumstances are permanent. Maybe you're feeling down because you're going through a tough time, such as a break-up or job loss. Dislike the apartment or your roommate you’re living with? It’s temporary.

When we practice positive thinking, we're essentially training our minds to focus on the good in our lives, rather than the bad. This doesn't mean we ignore or deny the difficult situations we may be facing. Rather, it means we choose to focus on the things that bring us joy and positivity, even amidst challenging times.

By cultivating a positive mindset, we also develop resilience and the ability to bounce back from setbacks. We learn to trust that things will improve, and we have the confidence to keep moving forward.

And finally, practice gratitude. Even if your current situation isn't ideal, there are always things to be thankful for. Take a few minutes each day to reflect on the blessings in your life, whether it's a supportive friend or a beautiful day outside.

So, if you find yourself confusing who you are with where you are this summer, remember the power of positive thinking. You are so much more than your circumstances, and by shifting your mindset to one of positivity, you'll attract confidence and positivity into your life. Focus on the good in your life and practice gratitude for the blessings you do have Celebrate your strengths, surround yourself with positivity, and trust that things will be better.

So, if you're feeling down this summer, remember that things are only temporary.

And if you need a little extra boost, remember that you're not alone. We all face difficult times and struggles, but with the power of positive thinking, we can overcome them and emerge stronger and more confident than ever before.

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How You Can Use Breath Work To Help You Chill This Summer

As the summer heats up, it's important to find ways to stay cool and calm, especially when things get stressful. One technique you definitely don't want to miss out on is breath work! By utilizing specific breathing techniques, you can help soothe your mind and body, and enjoy a more relaxed summer season.

One of the simplest and most effective breathwork techniques is deep breathing.

To try this,

find a quiet space and sit or lie down comfortably.
Place one hand on your chest and the other on your stomach.
Take a deep breath in through your nose, feeling your stomach expand.
Hold for a few seconds,
then exhale slowly through your mouth.
Repeat this for several breaths, focusing on the sensation of your breath as it moves in and out of your body.

If you need guidance check out this video for beginners.

Another effective breath work technique is called alternate nostril breathing.

To try this,

sit in a comfortable position with your eyes closed.
Use your right hand to close your right nostril with your thumb,
and inhale deeply through your left nostril.
Then, use your ring finger to close your left nostril
and exhale through your right nostril.
Inhale through your right nostril,
then switch back to your left nostril to exhale.
Repeat this for several rounds, feeling your breath become slower and more relaxed with each cycle.

In addition to these techniques, you can also try incorporating breathwork into your daily routine.

For example,

take a few deep breaths before starting your day or before going to bed at night.
You can also practice breath work while doing other relaxing activities, such as taking a bath or getting a massage.

By incorporating breath work into your summer routine, you can help soothe your mind and body and enjoy a more relaxed, stress-free season.

So take a deep breath, girl, and let the power of breathwork help you chill out this summer!

Ready to embrace the twists and turns of your personal growth journey? Check out this podcast that reminds us growth isn't always a straight line - just like our winged eyeliner
Don't let a disappointing summer get you down - check out this article for tips on how to turn your summer reality from 'meh' to 'heck yeah!'"

The first episode of My UnAesthetic Life drops this Wednesday. In this episode I’ll be chatting all what the podcast is all about. I’ve never done a break down of why I created it or named it the way that I did.

Subscribe to my YouTube Channel to watch the video podcast

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My UnAesthetic Life • A podcast on Spotify for Podcasters

My Unaesthetic Life is a podcast that celebrates the beauty in the messiness of life. Hosted by Ericka Ige, the show delves into the good, the bad, and the funny parts of life and encourages listeners to tune out the noise, listen to their own voices, and truly get to know themselves. Through thought-provoking conversations with experts and everyday people, we explore the power of vulnerability, mindfulness, self-care, and more. Join us on this unlearning journey as we discover the joy, peace, and hope that comes from truly embracing ourselves and our unaesthetic lives

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Exciting Announcement

After we wrap up the Summer Series Challenge in June. We’ll be introducing a new challenge (that’s paid- low cost) called The Kind Savagery 30-Day Confidence & Self-Love Challenge.

Every day you’ll receive either a video , audio, or task to do that will help you focus on embracing your inner kindness & fierceness. Plus you’ll have access to our Slack during the 30 days to get support during the 30 days.

Price the challenge at $97, with an early bird price of $77 for those who sign up before the launch date.

You can join now for early access to the community but the challenge will not kick off until July 10th.

Bookmark The Link

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Beat The Blues & Unwind This Weekend

Ericka Ige — Fri, 28 Apr 2023 14:00:00 +0000

We can’t be the only ones walking into the weekend like this ⬇️.

Here's what we're getting into today ⬇️

Feeling blue? We've got the tips to perk you up!
Sick of people gaslighting you when you're sad? We've got thoughtful words to help you handle it.
Need a good fiction book recommendation? Look no further!
Ready to unwind this weekend? We've got amazing activities to help you relax and recharge.

Taking Care Of Yourself When You’re Sad

Let's talk about feeling down in the dumps.

It's totally normal to feel sad sometimes, but when that sadness overstays its welcome and starts interfering with your life, it's time to take care of yourself.

So, what are some of the reasons why we feel down?

Let me break it down for you⬇️

Goodbyes Suck: Whether it's losing someone special, saying goodbye to a dream job, or ending a relationship, it's tough to let go of things that matter to us. It's okay to feel sad and take the time to process it.

Stressful Situations: Life can be messy, and sometimes it feels like everything is hitting the fan at once. Stressful situations like financial troubles, family conflicts, or health issues can bring us down.

Life's Little Traumas: Some of us may have experienced difficult situations like abuse or neglect that can still affect us and bring on the sadness.

Hormones Gone Wild: Let's be real, our bodies can be weird sometimes. Hormonal changes like those during PMS or menopause can bring on mood swings and make us feel blue.

So, what can you do to show yourself some much-needed TLC? Here are some tips from your trusty BFFs (that's US !):

Be gentle with yourself, girl. Don't beat yourself up for feeling sad. It's a natural part of life. Be kind to yourself and show yourself some compassion.
Reach out to your squad. Call up your bestie, your sister, or your mom and have a good ol' fashioned heart-to-heart. Sometimes just talking it out can make a world of difference.
Get moving and grooving! Exercise releases endorphins, those happy little chemicals in your brain. You don't need to run a marathon, just go for a walk, take a yoga class, or dance like no one's watching.
Get your nature on. Spending time outdoors has been scientifically proven to boost your mood. So go for a hike, have a picnic in the park, or just sit in your backyard and soak up the sun.
Get your beauty sleep, honey. Lack of sleep can make us feel like zombies. Set a regular bedtime and stick to it. And for the love of all that's holy, put down your phone before bed.

Remember, taking care of yourself isn't selfish. It's necessary for your mental and physical health. And if you're struggling with depression, it's totally okay to seek professional help. We're all in this together.

Want to have a healthy relationship? Check out this video on why you need to love yourself first.
Still need some quick tips to work out your sadness or depression? Check out these 11
Baddies, it's time to kick back, relax, and indulge in some lighthearted fiction. And what better way to do it than with Emily Henry's Happy Place? Follow Harriet and Wyn, the perfect couple turned exes, as they pretend to still be together on their annual vacation with their best friends. It's a week full of cheese, wine, and seafood, and the salty coastal air that we all dream about.
But the catch? The cottage they stay in is up for sale, and this is their last chance to enjoy it together. With witty banter, undeniable chemistry, and an idyllic setting, Happy Place is a fun and wise novel that will leave you feeling warm and fuzzy inside. Don't miss out on this delightful read!

If you're feeling like the world was spinning out of control this week, take a deep breath and try one of these three things this weekend.

Have a technology-free day. Shut down those screens and spend the day doing things that make you happy.
Take a solo day trip. Pick a destination that you've always wanted to visit and go on a mini-adventure by yourself.
Do a "mind dump" exercise. Get all those thoughts out of your head and onto paper. Write down everything that's been on your mind lately, from to-do lists to worries and everything in between. Once you've written it all down, let it go and don't think about it again until you're ready to take action. This can help clear your mind and reduce stress.

Take some time for yourself this weekend and remember that it's okay to hit the pause button every once in a while. You've got this!

Hey there, Nice Girls! Are you ready to shine like the summer sun? We sure are! That's why we're thrilled to introduce our Shining Through Summer series, exclusively for our lovely readers.

We know that summer can be a bit overwhelming - from the heat, to the social events, to the endless Instagram posts of people living their best lives.

But fear not, because we've got your back. In this series, we'll be dishing out all the juicy tips and tricks you need to stay cool, confident, and connected throughout the season.

From fashion and beauty, to relationships, mental health and self-care, to fun summer activities, we'll cover it all.

So sit back, relax, and let Nice Girls Anonymous be your ultimate summer BFF. We promise to keep it witty, relatable, and most importantly, fun!

Let's shine together, shall we? We kick off Monday!

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Discover your secret sauce 🌶️❤️‍🔥

Ericka Ige — Wed, 26 Apr 2023 18:00:00 +0000

We’re making it through the week baddies & we have some exciting things coming up for you😎.

Here's what we're getting into today ⬇️

In today’s edition:

What sets you apart from everyone else?Let’s find out how to leverage it
A Podcast episode full of Good Vibes
Ericka answers a question on moving past what people think of you
One Minute to Communicating Assertively.

Discovering your strengths: Identifying & leveraging your unique abilities

You probably already know how to be polite, accommodating, and generally awesome to those around you. But have you ever taken the time to identify & leverage your unique abilities? It's time to stop being a wallflower and start shining like the star 🌟you are!

First things first: identifying your strengths. This isn't as easy as it sounds. You might think you're good at a lot of things, but which of those things are you truly exceptional at? To find out, try the "10 to 1" exercise. List 10 things you're good at, then narrow it down to your top 5, and finally your top 1. Don't be modest here – go ahead and brag about yourself!

Now that you've identified your strengths, it's time to leverage them. One common mistake people make is trying to improve their weaknesses instead of building on their strengths. Sure, it's important to work on areas where you're not as strong, but focusing too much on your weaknesses can hold you back from reaching your full potential.

So, how can you leverage your strengths? Here are some unique non-common tips:

Start small. Don't try to take on too much too soon. Start by incorporating your strengths into small tasks or projects, then gradually work your way up to bigger challenges. This will help you build confidence and momentum.

Get feedback. Ask people who know you well to give you feedback on how you can better use your strengths. Sometimes we don't see our own strengths as clearly as others do.

Find your niche. Look for opportunities to use your strengths in a way that's unique to you. For example, if you're great at public speaking, consider joining a Toastmasters group or starting a YouTube channel.

Embrace failure. Don't be afraid to take risks and fail. Failure is a necessary part of growth and learning, and it can help you identify areas where you need to improve.

Practice mindfulness. Take time to reflect on how you're using your strengths and how they're impacting your life. This can help you stay focused and motivated.

Remember, discovering and leveraging your strengths isn't a one-time thing. It's an ongoing process that requires self-awareness, patience, and perseverance. But with these tips and a positive attitude, you'll be on your way to becoming the best version of yourself – and that's something to be proud of!

You HAVE to listen to this podcast episode with healing affirmations! It's seriously giving us all the good vibes.

Today’s question…….

“ I am so scared to post online because of what people think of me. How do I move past that?

Hey Kind Baddie, Ericka here 👋🏾. We’ve all been a little conditioned to make what other people think of us way heavier than our own opinion of ourselves. We see this play out all the time unfortunately on social media where mean spirited people think they have the right to comment on other people’s lives.

You may even have a few people in your life who've tried to force their opinion on you while you remain polite & accommodating about it. While these qualities are certainly admirable, they can also lead to a dangerous tendency to care too much about what other people think of you. It's time to break free from this mindset and start living life on your own terms. Like Tess Barclay says “Be cringe.”

Let's be real: it's impossible to please everyone. No matter how hard you try, there will always be someone who doesn't like you or disagrees with your choices. So why waste your time and energy trying to win over people who may never accept you for who you are?

Caring too much about what other people think can be exhausting and limiting. It can hold you back from pursuing your passions, taking risks, and living life to the fullest. Give yourself permission to be unapologetically yourself, flaws and all.

Of course, this is easier said than done. It can be scary to go against the grain to prioritize your own needs and desires over those of others. But here are some tips to help you let go of caring what other people think:

Know your values. Spend some time reflecting on what matters most to you in life. When you have a clear sense of your values, it becomes easier to make decisions that align with them, regardless of what other people might think.

Surround yourself with positive influences. Seek out friends, family members, and mentors who support and encourage you to be your best self. Having a strong support system can make all the difference in feeling confident and secure in who you are.

Embrace imperfection. Nobody's perfect, and that's okay! Instead of striving for perfection, focus on growth and progress. Celebrate your strengths and acknowledge your weaknesses, but don't let either define you.

Practice self-compassion. Be kind to yourself, especially when you make mistakes or face criticism. Remember that everyone has off days, and it's okay to take a break and give yourself the care and attention you need.

Trust yourself. At the end of the day, you know yourself better than anyone else. Trust your instincts and have faith in your own abilities and judgement.

So go ahead, don't let the opinions of others hold you back. When you stop caring what other people think, you'll find a newfound sense of freedom and joy in being yourself.

Sweetly,

One Minute to Communicating Assertively.

Are you struggling with assertive communication and feeling like it's a tricky beast to tame? Learn to say no.

Don't be afraid to say "no" when you need to, and be clear about your boundaries.Setting and enforcing personal boundaries is an essential aspect of self-care and well-being. It helps you prevent burnout, be realistic about your capabilities, and save your relationships.

Try this:

✅Know your limits.

Take some time to reflect on your wants, priorities, and needs. What are the things that are most important to you? What drains your energy or causes you stress?

✅ Be clear and direct.

When you need to say "no," do it in a clear and direct way. Don't beat around the bush or make excuses. Simply state your boundary in a firm but polite manner. For example, "I'm sorry, but I won't be able to take on that extra project right now. My plate is already full."

✅Stick to your guns

Once you've set a boundary, stick to it. Don't let others guilt or pressure you into changing your mind.

Hey there, Nice Girls! Are you ready to shine like the summer sun? We sure are! That's why we're thrilled to introduce our Shining Through Summer series, exclusively for our lovely readers.

We know that summer can be a bit overwhelming - from the heat, to the social events, to the endless Instagram posts of people living their best lives.

But fear not, because we've got your back. In this series, we'll be dishing out all the juicy tips and tricks you need to stay cool, confident, and connected throughout the season.

From fashion and beauty, to mental health and self-care, to fun summer activities, we'll cover it all.

So sit back, relax, and let Nice Girls Anonymous be your ultimate summer BFF. We promise to keep it witty, relatable, and most importantly, fun!

Let's shine together, shall we? We kick off Monday!

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Breaking Up with Negative Self-Talk 🚫

Ericka Ige — Tue, 25 Apr 2023 08:18:37 +0000

Happy Monday yikes Tuesday morning.

We know we didn't send this email yesterday. But that's okay we're making sure it's extra juicy for you today.

Here's what we're getting into today ⬇️

In today’s edition:

Negative self talk can really impact how you feel about yourself let's stop it
Takeaways from Metaverse Fashion Week
McCormick’s first package redesign in 40 years

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Negative Self Talk

Did you know that on average, we have about 6,000 thoughts running through our heads every single day? That's a lot of brain power! But here's the thing - most of these thoughts are on autopilot, meaning we've had them before and they're just repeating themselves.

When it comes to negative thoughts, let's get real, negative thoughts can be a real buzzkill. It's like having a dark cloud constantly hanging over your head, raining on your parade and making you feel like you can't catch a break.

And the worst part? We often don't even recognize the negative thoughts that have become so familiar to us. It's like they're old friends who've overstayed their welcome, but we're too polite to ask them to leave.

But fear not, lovely readers! With awareness comes power. By simply recognizing these negative thoughts for what they are - old habits that no longer serve us - we can start to break free from their hold.

First things first, let's acknowledge that negative thoughts are totally normal. We all have them from time to time, and that's okay. It's how we deal with them that matters.

So, how do we deal with them? Well, let's start by questioning them.

It's important to ask yourself, is this voice based on reality or just a bunch of negative assumptions?

So, the next time you catch yourself spiraling into a negative thought pattern, stop and ask yourself if the events in your life actually justify those thoughts. Are you assuming the worst without any real evidence? It's time to give yourself a break.

Next, let's reframe those negative thoughts. Instead of "I'm not good enough," try "I may not be perfect, but I'm doing my best." It may sound cheesy, but trust us, it works.

Here's a quick challenge on negative thoughts

It's as easy as filling in the blanks: "Yes, __________, but ___________."

For example:

"Yes, I made a mistake at work, but I learned from it and will do better next time."
"Yes, I'm feeling overwhelmed, but I'm taking steps to prioritize my tasks and manage my time more effectively."
"Yes, I've been skipping my workouts, but I'm committing to a 30-minute walk every day this week."

By using this simple technique, you're acknowledging the negative thought while also reframing it in a more positive light. It's a powerful tool to combat that harsh inner critic we all have.

And finally, let's practice self-compassion. Treat yourself the way you would treat a dear friend who's going through a tough time. Be kind, be patient, and remember that you're only human.

Negative thoughts may be a part of life, but they don't have to control us. By questioning them, reframing them, and practicing self-compassion, we can break free from their hold and live our best lives.

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Let's talk about taking your power back - and trust us, it's not just about standing up to others who have done you wrong. It's also about recognizing that sometimes it's you who mistreats yourself.

We know it's not easy to admit, but sometimes we're our own worst enemies. Those negative thoughts and behaviors can take a real toll on our mental health and overall well-being.

And here's the thing - it's okay to mess up sometimes. We all make mistakes and do things we regret. But it's important to forgive ourselves and move forward, rather than getting stuck in a cycle of self-blame and self-harm.

So, take a moment to acknowledge those parts of yourself that you may have messed over. But also, take a moment to forgive yourself and let go of that baggage. You deserve to treat yourself with kindness and compassion, just as you would a dear friend.

And remember, taking your power back isn't a one-time event - it's an ongoing process. Keep doing the work to recognize and challenge those negative patterns, and don't be afraid to reach out for help if you need it. We're all in this together.

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Hey there, Nice Girls! Are you ready to shine like the summer sun? We sure are! That's why we're thrilled to introduce our Shining Through Summer series, exclusively for our lovely readers.

We know that summer can be a bit overwhelming - from the heat, to the social events, to the endless Instagram posts of people living their best lives.

But fear not, because we've got your back. In this series, we'll be dishing out all the juicy tips and tricks you need to stay cool, confident, and connected throughout the season.

From fashion and beauty, to mental health and self-care, to fun summer activities, we'll cover it all.

So sit back, relax, and let Nice Girls Anonymous be your ultimate summer BFF. We promise to keep it witty, relatable, and most importantly, fun!

Let's shine together, shall we?

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Mirror, Mirror On The Wall:

Ericka Ige — Sat, 22 Apr 2023 01:00:00 +0000

Happy Friday Baddies 😎! We've made it to the end of the week, and what better way to celebrate than with some empowering self-care?

We're diving into the world of self-discovery and self-love, because let's face it, we could all use a little more of that in our lives.

Here's what we've got in store for you ⬇️

In today’s edition:

Returning to yourself: Caroline McHugh's brilliant TED Talk on the beauty of being yourself.
Some bold baddie words around the internet on self-love and self-sabotage.
We’ve got some great reads for you including a recent blog from us.
Our Founder's tips on processing feelings & staying motivated when life throws curveballs.
Unwind this weekend with DIY spa day essentials. Because who needs a spa when you can create your own oasis at home?
So, grab a cup of tea, put on your comfiest clothes, and let's dive into some self-care together. Happy reading, and happy Friday!
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Returning To Yourself

Grab your popcorn and get ready for some enlightenment, because we're diving deep into the world of self-discovery!

If you've ever felt like you've lost touch with yourself or you're just looking for some inner peace, then you've come to the right place.

Today, we're discussing Caroline McHugh's brilliant TED Talk on the beauty of being yourself.

Caroline talks about the concept of the "true mirror," which shows the exact image others see when they look at you. Looking at yourself in a true mirror can be weird because it's not the "you" you're used to seeing. But, it's is the key to understanding and embracing who you really are. It's like finally seeing yourself for the first time.

As we grow older, we may feel like we've lost touch with ourselves and our purpose. It's like we're playing hide-and-seek with ourselves, and we can't seem to find us. But, we're not lost, we're right here!

We may have experienced things that caused us to disconnect from ourselves, like raising kids, getting married, taking on a new career but we've always been physically present on this journey. So, instead of finding ourselves, we need to return to ourselves. It's like going back to your happy place.

To return to ourselves, we need to embrace a life where we are focused on our uniqueness. Without constantly comparing ourselves to others. It's about being kind to ourselves, loving our bodies, and feeding our souls with positive energy.

Here are some quick tips for you:

Watch Caroline McHugh's TED Talk ASAP.
Look at yourself in a "true mirror" and see yourself for the first time in a long time.
Stop focusing on your identity in relation to what you give to other people. Even if you’re a mother, wife, baker or whatever. You are you first. Sometimes you just need take a few minutes for yourself
Embrace your uniqueness. If there are things that you enjoy being apart of your life but people criticize it, remember that it’s your life! If you’re married or in a relationship, compromise is sometimes necessary but completely ignoring your needs is not okay.
Be kind to yourself, love your body, and feed your soul with positive energy.

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Check out our recent blog post 5 ways to book your self confidence without always comparing to other people
Want to show yourself some self love this weekend, check out these 11 tips recommended by therapists

A word from our Founder- Ericka

“I cried at my birthday dinner a few weeks ago 😖😫.”

Hey there, fellow Nice Girls! Let me tell you about a little incident that happened at my recent birthday dinner - I cried. Not cute, single tear kind of crying, but full-on ugly crying with snot and all. Why, you ask? Because I was feeling pretty down about where I am in life right now.

At 31 years old, I've been through some serious chaos that left me with no job, struggling business, debts, and a general feeling of being lost. I was ashamed and felt like a failure. But, my amazing family and friends reminded me that it's okay to not have it all together all the time. In fact, most people our age are still trying to figure it out.

So, I decided to channel my inner Kind Baddie and keep striving for better every day. If you're feeling the same way, here are some tips to help you process your feelings and stay motivated:

Give yourself permission to feel 💔: It's okay to feel sad, angry, frustrated, or disappointed. Acknowledge those emotions, and don't try to suppress them. We’ll be coming out with a masterclass soon on how to process your feelings in a healthy way.
Remember your achievements 💅: Take a moment to reflect on your past accomplishments, no matter how small they may seem. Celebrate them and use them as a grounding place when you’re spiraling. Also use them as proof that you’ve had success before so you’ll have success again.
Don't compare yourself to others: Everyone has their own journey, so don't compare your progress to anyone else's. Stay focused on your own path and trust the process. If you want to stop comparing yourself & increase your self compassion, check out our new Compassion Corner guide for $27.
Surround yourself with positive people: The people you surround yourself with can have a huge impact on your mindset and motivation. I don’t know where I would be without my support system. So, make sure you're spending time with people who uplift and support you. & if you want a built in support group, join The Sweetheart Syndicate
Keep hustling: The most important thing is to keep working towards your goals, even if it feels like you're not making progress. Like we said in our Wednesday email, 1% daily actions add up. Check out this article by James Clear. Consistent daily action is better than giving up. Every step counts, and eventually, you'll get there.

So, my fellow Nice Girls, if you're feeling like you're not where you want to be in life, remember that it's okay. You're not alone, I’m right there with you 💕. Let’s keep hustling, keep striving together.

As always keep being the baddie you truly are.

Love,

Looking to pamper yourself this weekend? Over here at NGA we’re going to be baking brownies and watch a show on Netflix & our favorite reality tv shows we missed this week ( Vanderpump Rules anyone? Also respond to this if you’re caught up on the drama we’d love to chat! ).

If you’re looking for some self care centered around beauty check out by 21 Ninety "On a Budget? Try These DIY Spa Day Essentials"

They offers some great ideas for creating a luxurious spa day experience in the comfort of your own home, without breaking the bank.

Some of the DIY spa essentials include:

a relaxing bath soak 🛀🏾 a soothing face mask 🧖🏾‍♀️, and a hydrating body scrub. But the article also offers some uncommon points such as creating a cooling cucumber eye mask to reduce puffiness and dark circles.

By following the tips in this article, you can create a rejuvenating & affordable spa day at home that will leave you feeling refreshed and renewed.

Comment on below this post to let us know what you get into this weekend to recharge.

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Unleash Your Inner Confidence with Consistent Action🤫:

Ericka Ige — Wed, 19 Apr 2023 20:30:00 +0000

We’re glad it’s Wednesday over here at NGA but we’ve been sick all week so this meme represents how much tea we’ve drank all week ⬇️

Here's what we're getting into today ⬇️

It’s hump day. In today’s edition:

The parts of confidence you need to understand to utilize it
Should you cut that person off? We’re chatting about how to know if it’s time for some space-
One Minute to Confidence- Only focus on getting 1% percent better daily.

Confidence Building

Let's talk about confidence, shall we?

You know, that feeling of strutting your stuff like you own the room. Confidence is like a superpower, but it's not just something that you can magically gain overnight.

Contrary to popular belief, confidence is not a mystical force that some people are just blessed with. It's developed through consistent action, unwavering faith, and even a little bit of delusion. Yup, that's right, sometimes you just gotta fake it till you make it!

But don't worry, it's not as shady as it sounds. It's just that when you act confident, even if you don't quite feel it yet, your brain starts to believe that you actually are confident. It's like a self-fulfilling prophecy!

So, if you're feeling a bit lacking in the confidence department, don't fret. It's not about being born with it, it's about building it up. And how do you do that?

By taking small daily actions that improve your skills and abilities.

Let me share a story about my friend Lily, who used to get all shaky and nervous when it came to public speaking. But she had a big presentation coming up at work, and she knew she couldn't let her lack of confidence get in the way.

So, She started practicing her speech every day, even in front of the mirror (yep, that's how serious she was about it). She even roped in her friends to listen & give feedback. And she researched all kinds of public speaking tips and tricks, like how to stand up straight and project her voice like a boss.With each practice session, Lily felt a little more confident.

When the big day finally arrived, she killed it! Her colleagues were all like, "Whoa, Lily, you're a natural!" And Lily was like, "Nah, I just worked really hard on it." She realized that confidence isn't just something you're born with (although some people might have a head start), it's something you can build up with effort and practice.

When you improve your skills, you open up all kinds of possibilities for yourself. You can ace that exam you've been dreading, land that dream job, or even make new friends. And every time you achieve something, big or small, you start to see yourself in a better light. You start to believe that you're capable, competent, and worthy of success. And before you know it, you're strutting your stuff with confidence in all areas of your life.

So don't be afraid to step out of your comfort zone and try something new. Take a class, join a club, or pick up a new hobby. Every little skill you learn will add up to make you a more confident, badass version of yourself.

You got this, girl!

Question from social media:

“ Should I cut this person off if they are not meeting my expectations?”

Let's talk about cutting people off, shall we? I know it's tempting to want to ditch someone who's not meeting your expectations, but before you do that, let's take a step back and consider a few things.

First of all, are your expectations realistic?

Sometimes we expect people to behave a certain way because that's what we would do in their shoes. But everyone is different, & they have their own way of doing things.

So, take a moment to reflect on whether your expectations are fair and reasonable. Review our email from last week on Boundaries (is it a Need, Boundary, Request or Demand?).

Secondly, have you communicated your expectations clearly?

Sometimes we assume that people know what we want or need from them, but that's not always the case. Make sure you've expressed your expectations in a kind & respectful way.

Be open to hearing their perspective too. Maybe they have a valid reason for not meeting your expectations, or maybe they just need some guidance on how to do so.

If you've taken these steps & you still feel like cutting the person off is the best course of action, then go ahead & do what's best for you. But remember, cutting someone off should be a last resort.

It's important to be kind, empathetic, and understanding in all of our relationships, even when things get tough. And who knows, maybe with a little communication and effort, you and the other person can find a way to meet in the middle.

Ericka

One Minute to Confidence.

Are wanting to improve an area of your life but it feels super daunting to take on? Focus on just getting 1% better.

Stop being obsessed with making earth-shattering improvements and just focus on daily tiny gains. This concept was first created by James Clear the author of Atomic Habits. Check out this book it’s one of my favorites.

How can you try getting 1% better at something today?

Try this:

✅Do more of what already works

Don’t waste the resources and ideas at your fingertips because they don’t seem new and exciting. If you’re doing well at something— keep going!

✅ Avoid Tiny Losses

Instead of focusing on just being right all the time, focus on doing less things wrong. Strip away things that are too complex and not essential. This is a concept called improvement by subtraction.

✅ Measure your results backwards

Don’t measure your progress by looking forward because all you’re doing is trying to predict the future but instead base it on what has already happened.
example: Strength Training: you squatted 250 pounds for 5 sets of 5 reps last week? Give 255 pounds a try this week.

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Our paid subscription service is like having a squad of supportive besties who are there to cheer you on, challenge you, and help you reach your goals. With exclusive access to expert advice, insider tips, and personalized resources, you'll have everything you need to become the best version of yourself.

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What we’re listening to

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The Surprising Way Slowing Down Can Help You Make More Progress

Ericka Ige — Tue, 18 Apr 2023 00:35:00 +0000

We don't know about you but we had a good weekend. Since the 1st weekend of Coachella kicked off was this past weekend we've been listening to Bad Bunny, Rosalia, and Becky G all weekend.

Check out our Latina Mami Szn ❤️‍🔥 Playlist while you read. ⬇️

Latina Mami Szn ❤️‍🔥

Latina Mami Szn ❤️‍🔥 · Playlist · 250 songs

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Here's what we're getting into today ⬇️

In today’s edition:

Should you slow down to make more progress? We're talking about how it helps
We found some inspiring quotes around the web to give you support this week
We found a great Tik Tok & podcast on having expectations for yourself & others

Slowing Down To Speed Up

Have you ever felt like you're not making progress in your career or personal life?

Sometimes it can feel like you're taking one giant step forward and two steps back. But what if we told you that "downgrading" might be the key to success?

Hear us out: "downgrading" doesn't mean giving up on your goals or settling for less. It means taking a step back and reevaluating what truly matters to you. Maybe that high-paying job you're chasing isn't fulfilling, or building that big business will require sacrificing too much of your personal life.

It's okay to reassess and make changes. In fact, it takes courage to prioritize your well-being over societal expectations. But how do you do this?

First of all, let's acknowledge that our society often equates success with

✅money ✅power ✅and status.

We're told that we need to climb the ladder, achieve more, and always be striving for bigger and better things. But what if that definition of success doesn't resonate with you? What if you're feeling burnt out, unfulfilled, or even unhappy despite all your achievements?

That's where "downgrading" comes in. It's not about giving up on your dreams or not ever being productive. It's about redefining success on your own terms.

Maybe that means taking a job that pays less but allows you more flexibility and work-life balance. Maybe it means giving up someone else's ideal version of your business to spend more time with your family or pursue a passion project. Or maybe it means scaling back on your spending and living a simpler, more intentional lifestyle.

Whatever your version of "downgrading" looks like, the key is to prioritize your own well-being and happiness over external expectations.

Don't be surprised when people don't understand why you're making the change. Going against the grain isn't what the average person does. So they will probably think it's strange.

You have to do what's best for you, & trust us, it's worth it. You might just find that taking a step back allows you to be more intentional & present in your life. By pursuing what truly matters to you.

So, the next time you feel like you're not making progress or that you're stuck in a rut, don't be afraid to "downgrade." It might just be the secret to finding true success and fulfillment.

Today we want you to remind you not to stress over every little thing sometimes that means rolling with the punches.

We know that life can throw curveballs at us sometimes, and it can be tempting to try to control everything around us. But sometimes, the best thing we can do is roll with the punches.

Rolling with the punches means being adaptable and flexible in the face of change or uncertainty. It means letting go of the need to control everything and trusting that things will work out in the end. It's about taking a deep breath, embracing the present moment, and finding joy in the journey.

So, the next time you're feeling overwhelmed or stressed, take a step back and remind yourself that it's okay to roll with the punches. You don't have to have everything figured out right now, and that's okay! Trust that things will fall into place, and focus on what you can control in the present moment.

You've got this!

On the flip side

But we also want to remind you that surrendering doesn't mean settling. It just means not working so hard against what is naturally happening in your life.

Sometimes, in the midst of surrendering to what's naturally happening in our lives, we might feel like we're giving up or settling for less. But that's not the case at all!

Surrendering is about letting go of control and trusting that things will unfold as they should. It's about releasing the grip of expectation and allowing yourself to be present in the moment. When we surrender, we stop working so hard against the natural flow of life and start living in alignment with it. And that's when magic can happen!

So, don't confuse surrendering with settling. Surrendering is a beautiful act of trust and faith in yourself and the universe. It's about allowing yourself to be guided by your intuition and embracing the journey, wherever it may lead. So, keep surrendering and keep striving for what truly lights you up. You've got this!

Want to hear more about downgrading to progress, check out this podcast episode on the topic.
Check out this Tik Tok by Mel Robbins on letting go of expectations of others

Do you know someone who needs to be nominated for our Nice Girls Finish First that's making a positive impact on the community? It could be you, it could be your neighbor, or friend?

We want feature women who embody the essence of a "nice girl" and use their kindness, empathy, and authenticity to make a positive impact on their communities and beyond.

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Nominate someone here

Hey, gorgeous! Sick of feeling like a doormat just because you're kind-hearted? Yeah, we hear you loud and clear. That's why the Sweetheart Syndicate was created just for you!

Our community is all about finding that perfect balance between being kind and being confident. And let's be real, who doesn't want to be a badass with a heart of gold?

By joining us, you'll connect with other like-minded women and get access to some seriously sweet perks:

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And the best part? We'll help you make progress towards the life you want to live! By finding that sweet spot between kindness and confidence, you'll be able to show up as your best self and crush your goals like the boss babe you are.

So if you're ready to stop being a pushover and start being a Kind Baddie, then join the Sweetheart Syndicate today for just $9.99/month. Trust us, babe, you won't regret it. Let's build a community of strong, confident women who know how to be kind and kick butt at the same time!

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Boundaries don't make you mean ❤️‍🔥

Ericka Ige — Sat, 15 Apr 2023 01:44:00 +0000

Bet you figured out what we’re chatting about today ⬇️

Happy Freaking Friday. We made it Babe.

In today’s edition:

We’re learning to set boundaries by evaluating if we received a need, request, demand, or boundary.
How Role Playing Can Help You Stay Strong With Your Boundaries
Articles to read while you sip on your favorite drink this weekend
Feeling stressed financially because of the recession? say less
Unwind with a little ASMR

Setting Boundaries

We all know they're important, but do we actually know how to set them? I mean, sure, we've all said to ourselves, "I won't let anyone treat me like that," but have we actually communicated those boundaries to the people in our lives? Or are we just silently seething while we let others walk all over us?

Setting boundaries is like putting on your own oxygen mask before helping others on a plane. You can't take care of anyone else if you're suffocating. And trust me, I know how easy it is to compromise on our boundaries just to please others. But at what cost? Our well-being? Our sanity? Our sense of self? No, thanks.

Here’s something to keep in mind when setting boundaries is what the person is asking you a need, a boundary, a request, or a demand. Let’s break it down 1 minute style.

A Need: something that you can’t be okay without.
- Ex: I have a need for connection and belonging — to feel seen, heard, and valued. That’s a fact.
- The way the need is met is not set in stone ex: I need you to text me on your lunch break every day.- It is a strategy a way to get what you need but not a necessity.
A Boundary: can be viewed as simply informing others what meets your needs and what does not meet your needs. It’s not a judgment, accusation, demand, or ultimatum. It’s a statement of fact.
A Requests: is flexible and negotiable.
- Ex: you might say to your partner, "I'm very tired tonight. Would you mind doing the dishes?" If your partner responds with, "I'm wiped out, too. Let's leave them and do them tomorrow," and you say "okay" then that means it was a request.
A Demand: is rigid and non-negotiable because the other person does not have the right to say "No" without getting punished in some way by you. Same scenario as above but instead of you saying ok you say, "I can never count on you," then your question was a demand.

And if you need a little extra help with boundary-setting, check out our course, The Good Girl Rehab.

This video was a cute reminder that us sensitive & people pleasing baddies need support & encouragement to set boundaries even with strangers. Especially in sales situations (We cannot be the only ones that give in 👋🏾…we’re working on it)

@willyumgregory
i live to hype her up lmao

If you struggle with people pleasing a good way to let people in your life know how to support you is to ask them to role play with you just like this guy did with his girlfriend.

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These are some articles & podcasts we think would be good for you to check out over the weekend

Check out this article from James Clear on creating solid Habits
Check out our blog post on feeling body confident

Talking about your finances sometimes may not be cute but it’s a necessary evil. Don’t worry this is how we really feel ⬇️

Let's face it, the recession has got us all counting our pennies and our stress levels soaring.

But just because we're feeling the pinch doesn't mean we have to let it bring us down!

Our top tip for staying happy through these tough times?

Cultivate gratitude!

Yes, even for that one-dollar ramen packet you've been surviving on.

And if you're looking for more tips on how to be happy when you're broke (because let's be real, who isn't?), head over to our latest blog post for some budget-friendly inspo.

Trust us, your wallet and your mental health will thank you. #brokebutblessed #gratitudeattitude #happylifehacks #readourblog

We don’t want to have to tell you twice

Are you feeling like you didn’t can't catch a break? We hear you! We all know how it feels to have a busy week and just want to unwind and relax. But let's be real, sometimes those basic "self-care" tips just don't cut it.

So, I did some digging and found some top articles that offer some more unique and in-depth ways to relax after a long week.

Indulge in some ASMR videos. Here is one of our favorites.
if you're feeling adventurous, why not take a hike or explore nature? Fresh air and physical activity can work wonders for stress relief. Here’s an article on hiking safety.
How about trying out a sensory deprivation tank? It may sound daunting, but it's actually a great way to shut out the world and give your mind and body a chance to decompress. Check out this 5 minute video on what it is
Whatever you choose, the key is to give yourself permission to slow down and take it easy. So, go ahead and take a load off – you've earned it!

What we're listening to going into the weekend: This Afro Beats Jam by WizKid

True Love (feat. Tay Iwar & Projexx)

Wizkid, Tay Iwar, Projexx · Song · 2020

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Let your freak flag fly ⛳️

Ericka Ige — Wed, 12 Apr 2023 23:45:30 +0000

Taps Mic & sings 🎵" Better latttteeee than neverrrrr to change"🎵 We know this newsletter is a little late this Wednesday but we hope you’ll forgive us as you listen to this song.

Here's what we're getting into today ⬇️

In today’s edition:

Owning Your Identity Plays A Huge Role In Confidence Building
How our founder stopped wearing her favorite sweater & what it can teach you about body confidence
How Brenee’ Brown’s Book can inspire you to embrace your life fully
Confidence Boosts from Around The ‘Net
Our 1 minute confidence hack for the week

If you’re struggling to feel like who you are is enough to help other people like you, follow you, buy from you or whatever then this is for you, we hope this pep talk will HYPE YOU UP!

Are you ready to unleash your true selves and embrace your unique identities?

Well you need to focus on embracing yourself FULLY. Whether you're a glitter-loving unicorn or a tattooed rebel, it's time to own it and rock it.

First things first: stop trying to be someone you're not. If you’re honest with yourself, you know it's exhausting anyway.

And let's be real, you're not fooling anyone.

The more you try to hide or suppress your true self, the more unhappy and insecure. It’s giving fraudulent because you’re trying to be someone else fam!

If Tik Tok didn’t teach us anything is that people love when you let your freak flag fly.

Embrace your quirks, your passions, and your style, and let them shine through.

Next up: surround yourself with people who celebrate your identity aka go out and find your tribe!

You don't need to waste your time with people who don't appreciate or accept you for who you are.

Seek out friends and allies who uplift and support you, no matter how unique or unconventional you may be.

We’ll be releasing a podcast episode soon on how to make friends as an adult (It’s hard out here fam!)

And finally, don't be afraid to take risks and try new things.

Whether it's experimenting with a new hairstyle, trying out a new hobby, or speaking up for what you believe in, taking risks is what makes life exciting.

And the more you embrace your identity, the more confident and empowered you'll feel to take those risks and chase your dreams.

So go ahead, embrace your identity with open arms. You are unique, you are fabulous, and you are worthy of love and respect. Don't let anyone else tell you otherwise.

So, my BFF (the BFF is me Ericka the founder 👋🏾) had this favorite sweater that she loved wearing. It was super cozy & made her feel so confident. She would wear it all the time with her favorite jeans and head out to school feeling like a badass future boss.

One day, while she was walking into class, some guys started making inappropriate comments about her sweater. They said things that made her feel so embarrassed and ashamed, and she felt like she had done something wrong by wearing it.

She was so upset that she stopped wearing her favorite sweater altogether. She didn't want to draw any more unwanted attention to herself, and she didn't want to feel uncomfortable in her own skin.

I can’t be the only one that has a story similar to that- shoot me a reply and let me know if you relate to this.

If you struggle with letting other people dictate how you feel even what you wear, check out this article on our blog about having body confidence when changing your style.

Don’t let anyone make you feel ashamed for simply existing.

Stop caring so much about what other people think of you & learned to love yourself for who you are, flaws and all.

Wear your favorite clothes with pride!
Got a story you want to share about a time you let people run over you & what you learned from it, anonymously with the Baddie Brigade, shoot me a reply and I’ll feature it next Wednesday.

One Minute to Confidence.

So, if today was brutal, and now you’re sitting in front of your computer with ready to scroll mindlessly for a few hours before bed. Put The Phone Down. Your brain isn’t built to handle the insane amount of info that's flooding your feed every damn second. Every swipe you make is like a kick in the head to your poor little brain, forcing it to try and process more than it's biologically capable of handling. And let me tell you, this overload of stimuli can straight-up paralyzes your brain and messes with your motivation.

So, maybe it's time to put down the phone and give that brain of yours a well-deserved break, ya feel me?

Try it: Engaging in activities that add value to your life. Make a list of things you love to do. It could be as simple as a bubble bath, reading your next #BookTok find, or even taking a 10 minute walk to unwind for the day. Then, turn to that list like a cheat sheet the next time you’re thinking about spending hours scrolling.

Words to hold on to today

If you’re looking for a good read about accepting yourself fully, flaws and all check out The Gifts of Imperfection by Brene Brown
Song we have on repeat today- we hope it gives you a boost of confidence to finish the week strong.

Oh, girl, we know being a Kind Baddie can be tough. You put in all this work to be nice and considerate, but it can feel like life isn't giving you what you deserve 'cause you struggle with being assertive. Don't worry, boo, 'cause you're not alone. We've created a community just for you where you can connect with other baddies who value kindness just as much as you do.

This is a safe space where you can embrace your sensitive side while still being a badass and owning your life. It's all about finding that balance between being kind and confident, and we're here to help you slay at both.

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When you join the Sweetheart Syndicate, you get access to so many amazing things. Our paid newsletter subscription includes a private Slack community where you can chat it up with fellow Sweethearts, score discounts to our merch and digital shop, and even contribute to the content we create in the newsletter.

And wait, there's more! Every month, we host a Q&A session with our team where you can ask us anything your heart desires. It's like having your own personal squad of ride-or-die besties who always have your back.

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Revolutionize Your Results 📊

Ericka Ige — Mon, 10 Apr 2023 05:00:00 +0000

Here's what we're getting into today ⬇️

Happy Monday. Today is the first edition of Nice Girls Anonymous in its new form 🥳.

We're celebrating big over here by having a dance party to this playlist we curated.

Check it out if you want to get down with us 👇🏾

Villian Era Playlist- The Good Girl Rehab

Villian Era Playlist- The Good Girl Rehab · Playlist · 48 songs

https://open.spotify.com/playlist/08gkUTBzP3keuvjhjqLPu1?si=99f9805ab30f4e37

In today’s edition:

How to start the week by taking action... it may get a little messy but we'll show you how to do it with confidence.
How to stay true to yourself in an environment blending in is highly valued...*cough cough* social media
Podcast episodes & Articles that inspired us to be confident in taking action this past weekend
Nominate a Nice Girl Who's finishing first

Taking Messy Action

Are you ready to kick off the week with some serious gusto? We know, we know...it's hard to summon up the energy after a weekend of binge-watching Netflix and indulging in all your favorite snacks. But fear not! We're here to show you how to start the week by taking action, even if it gets a little messy.

First things first: make a to-do list. We know, you probably just rolled your eyes super hard, but trust us...it's a game-changer. Write down everything you need to accomplish for the week, and then prioritize it.

We recommend creating a daily Top 3 for your Job/Business & Personal Life. That way you are not ignoring either part of your life.

By doing this you're focusing on the things that are the biggest time suckers, most daunting task first, or top priority so you can get it out of the way and feel like a rockstar.

Plus, once you've done the hardest thing, everything else will seem like a breeze.

Now, here's where it might get a little messy. Sometimes, taking action means making mistakes. And that's okay! It's all part of the process.

Don't beat yourself up if you stumble a little along the way. Or you miss a day of a habit. Remember, progress is better than perfection. & Consistency is what you should be striving for.

Finally, stick to the promises you set for yourself. Doing this is the easiest way to build trust within yourself.

And building trust is one of the quickest ways to build confidence!

You got this, girl. Believe in yourself and your abilities. Take deep breaths, listen to some empowering music, and go forth and conquer the week.

We can't wait to hear about all the amazing things you accomplish this week!

Don't forget to respond back to this email letting us know what you're up to.

“Only the truth of who you are, if realized, will set you free.”
Eckhart Tolle

Are you tired of feeling like you have to conform to fit in on Tik Tok, Instagram, Twitter, now Lemon8, and all those other platforms🙋🏾‍♀️?

Do you feel like a sheep in a sea of clones, all following the same trends & posting the same curated feed posts? Well, fear not...we're here to help you stay true to yourself, even in a world where blending in is highly valued *cough cough we're talking about you social media.

First things first: As hard as it seems just be yourself. Yes, we know that sounds like something your yoga instructor would say, but it's true!

Don't try to be someone you're not just to get people to follow you online. That will get old really fast especially when you're trying to create content consistently.

Here's how you can be your most authentic self online:

✅ Embrace your quirks and unique qualities, and let them shine through in your posts. Trust us, people will appreciate the real you more than a fake version.

✅ Secondly, set time limits on your consumption. If you're constantly bombarded with images & messages that make you feel inferior or inadequate, it's time to take a step back.

Unfollow or mute accounts that don't align with your values or make you feel bad about yourself.

Instead, seek out accounts that inspire and uplift you.

Also be sure to create a life outside of social media. Nothing will bring you back to reality like interacting with people in the real world.

✅ And finally, don't take it all too seriously. Remember that social media is just a highlight reel, not real life.

Don't compare yourself to others or obsess over likes and followers. At the end of the day, the most important thing is that you're happy with who you are & how you're showing up in the world.

So go ahead, be your authentic, fabulous self on social media. You don't need to blend in with the crowd to be popular or cool. In fact, being true to yourself is what will truly set you apart.

Check out this article on How to Break Out of the Social Media Comparison Trap

In this segment of the newsletter we'll be featuring books, podcasts, or articles that explore topics such as boundaries, assertiveness, and self-confidence, helping you to deepen your understanding of yourself.

Want to live more authentically? Here are 6 ways you can do that.
Setting boundaries is like putting up a fence around your garden, it keeps out the weeds and lets the flowers thrive - watch this video to learn how!

Do you know someone who needs to be nominated for our Nice Girls Finish First that's making a positive impact on the community? It could be you, it could be your neighbor, or friend?

We want feature women who embody the essence of a "nice girl" and use their kindness, empathy, and authenticity to make a positive impact on their communities and beyond.

You can nominate the person here ⬇️

Nominate a Nice Girls First

Hey there, sensitive baddies! Do you feel like you're often getting taken advantage of because you value being kind? Well, fear not because the Sweetheart Syndicate is here to welcome you with open arms!

We know that being a Kind Baddie isn't always easy. You put in all this effort to be kind and considerate, and it can feel like you're not getting what you want out of life because you struggle with being assertive. But let us tell you, you're not alone. We have created a community just for you, where you can connect with other like-minded women who value kindness as much as you do.

This is a space where you can embrace your sensitive side while also being a badass and confidently navigating life. It's all about finding that sweet spot between kindness and confidence, and we're here to help you do just that.

And the best part? By joining the Sweetheart Syndicate, you get access to so many amazing perks. Our paid newsletter subscription includes a private Slack community where you can chat with fellow Sweethearts, get discounts to our Merch & digital product shop, and even contribute to the content we create in the newsletter.

Plus, every month we host a Q & A session with our team where you can ask us anything you want! It's like having your own personal group of BFFs who are always there to support you.

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